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Conservative Christian Leader Says Single Moms Should Put Their Kids Up For Adoption

Posted by on Nov. 27, 2013 at 4:07 PM
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In what seems like a single step away from advocating that we take kids away from their single moms by force, a conservative Christian leader is urging them to give up their children voluntarily.

A conservative Christian leader says single moms should surrender their kids to Christian homes with two parents.

Right Wing Watch reports that Southern Baptist leader Richard Land is calling on single mothers to put up their kids for adoption so that Christian households with two parents can raise them.

In a November 23rd article published on The Christian Post, Land urges single mothers across the nation to stop being selfish and hand their kids over to good Christian parents so they can be raised properly, the way he thinks God intended.

“Keeping the baby is almost never preferable to allowing a baby to be adopted into a solid, faithful Christian home,” Land claims. “A single mother who keeps her baby is quite often denying that baby the father that God wants for that baby, and every baby, to have. Furthermore, in most circumstances, keeping the baby circumscribes and forecloses both the mother’s and the baby’s economic futures in tragic and unfortunate ways. If the mother is doing what is best for her baby (one of the defining marks of maternal love), she will part with her baby so that it will have the future God intended for him or her to have… Adoption allows the mother to give her child both a mother and a father who will love and cherish the child.”

Richard Land calls for a policy that would increase the number of kids in need of adoptive homes by millions.

Land says he understands that there are already 100,000 children waiting to be adopted in the United States, but he still thinks all 11 million single moms in the nation should freely surrender their kids. Why? Because he says the children of single moms are being raised improperly and really should be given the chance to have a father in their lives, even if they have to squander their childhood in orphanages waiting to be adopted.

Apparently, Land has no clue how many children that is. Try about 20 million. That’s how many children would be flooding the adoption system if Land had his way. Earlier in his article, before he completely insulted single moms, Land tried to make the case for adoption instead of abortion. He says that women should always choose adoption rather than seek an abortion. Since an estimated 1.2 million abortions are performed every year, that would be 1.2 million babies that the already overworked and underfunded adoption and child services system would have to deal with each year, in addition to the 20 million Land expects single moms to give up. Can anyone possibly imagine this turning out well?

Unless conservatives are literally willing to order their congressional puppets to open the government wallet and write a gigantic check (Can anyone honestly imagine that happening?), the system would implode upon itself. Millions of children would be stranded. And millions of children would be added to the million-plus children who are now homeless in America. It would create a crisis of epic proportions, with not enough Christian households around to solve it.

Richard Land’s call carves a dangerous path.

The fact is, abortion is a necessary choice that all women should have. Sure, they have ability to choose adoption. But it seems that Land is suggesting forcing that choice upon women. There are already so many children who have no home, why force women to thrust more children into that situation? It’s seriously insane.

Furthermore, after single moms read what Land said, it wouldn’t surprise me if they tarred and feathered him in a public square. As if conservatives haven’t attacked single mothers enough, this guy is openly claiming that they don’t raise their children right and that the only way they can do so is to have a husband. This personally enrages me, because I was raised by a single mother, as are millions of children every single year. Is it hard? Sure it is. But does that mean my single mother wasn’t a fantastic parent who raised me well? Absolutely not.

Land’s call for single moms to willingly surrender their children is a dangerous signal from religious conservatives. You know how conservatives are currently cheering for Russia to forcibly take children away from gay couples? It sounds like conservatives are now one step closer toward forcibly taking children away from single mothers here in America. I’m not sure what conservatives call that, but most sane people would call it kidnapping, which is illegal. Furthermore, Land’s call to for single moms to give up their kids to Christian couples is highly suspicious. Clearly, these Christian fundamentalists would be free to indoctrinate these kids. Basically, Land wants to take kids away from their single moms so they can be brainwashed with hate, fear, prejudice, and ignorance. Again, I’m not sure what Land calls that, but most sane people would call that child abuse.

Conservatives have stopped at nothing to attack single mothers.

This is yet another aspect in the GOP’s war on women. They simply can’t stand single moms, even though it’s a good bet that many right-wingers were raised by them. Despite that, conservatives have stopped at nothing to attack single mothers.

Kansas Republicans are increasing the cost of childcare across the state to fund abstinence-only programs that don’t work. You know who is going to be affected by that the most? Single moms. In Wisconsin, the GOP thinks single moms actually want fatherless children and have compared single motherhood to child abuse. Republicans even blame single moms for the epidemic of gun violence in this country.

But that’s not all. Republican policies such as abstinence-only programs and their anti-contraception crusade lead to more women becoming single moms. Not only that, their policies only make the lives of single mothers harder, thus making it more difficult to care for their children. GOP efforts to eliminate child care services, preschool, food stamps, and equal pay for women have only made things harder for single women.

Here’s a thought. The he-man woman haters within the GOP should get off their collective asses and begin pushing birth control and comprehensive sex education. The number of unintended pregnancies would drop as would the number of abortions. And here’s an even better idea. What if Republicans actually supported and enacted equal pay for women? What if they increased child care services and pre-school at the same time? Those combined efforts would reduce the number of women who become single mothers via unintended pregnancies. And single mothers would have a large enough income and the assistance they need to take care of their kids.

Richard Land’s call is sure to drive more women and their children into the welcoming arms of the Democratic Party.

Conservatives have the gall to wonder why women are voting for Democrats, and yet they attack women on all fronts. Of course, it’s not going to get any better for the GOP considering one of their own just insulted millions of single mothers and the millions of children who are raised by them. On that same note, let’s not forget that young people are increasing voting against the Republican Party. By attacking their moms, the GOP is just giving them another reason to vote Democrat.

Richard Land, and conservative men like him, are sexist assholes.

It’s amazing how conservative men can claim to know so much about child-rearing when they have made it abundantly clear that they expect women to do all the work. Maybe if Republicans advocated for teaching men to be good partners with the women they have a child with, more kids would have a father in their lives. Unfortunately, conservative men like Richard Land are too busy being sexist assholes, and you can’t expect sexist assholes to teach other men not to be one. In short, these anti-women conservative men are totally unfit to raise children and are totally unqualified to judge single mothers and how they raise theirs.

by on Nov. 27, 2013 at 4:07 PM
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mustbeGRACE
by Silver Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 5:05 PM
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Many single  moms who find themselves pregnant should and do put their babies up for adoption.

A selfless act that many have done without being told to by this man.

PrimmednPunked
by Silver Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 5:23 PM
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Would you say this to people who were raised by a single mother?  I know many wonderful people who had single mothers.  

Quoting mustbeGRACE:

Many single  moms who find themselves pregnant should and do put their babies uo for adoption.

A selfless act that many have done without being told to by this man.


Sat.Wed
by Bronze Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 5:53 PM
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SERIOUSLY?????? so if we "follow" this a holes advice my grandmother who RASIED 5 kids on her own after my grandfather died should have given ALL up for adoption??? what a sick bastered and YOUR sick my dear lady
Quoting mustbeGRACE:

Many single  moms who find themselves pregnant should and do put their babies uo for adoption.

A selfless act that many have done without being told to by this man.


FlowerGirl777
by Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 6:17 PM

I don't think that would ever happen. It is hitting a little too close to many of the GOP voters. 

PinkButterfly66
by Bronze Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 6:22 PM
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No surprise.  That's the real reason behind most anti-abortionists desire to outlaw abortion.  They want women who can have children become breeders for the childless christians.

JanuaryBaby06
by on Nov. 27, 2013 at 7:20 PM

So in your opinion whats the difference? Whether single, divorced or single the child doesn't have a man in the house & may suffer finical and every other way if they have to do it on their own... so in that way it's all the same thing.


Quoting PinkButterfly66:

No surprise.  That's the real reason behind most anti-abortionists desire to outlaw abortion.  They want women who can have children become breeders for the childless christians.



PinkButterfly66
by Bronze Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 7:23 PM
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In my opinion, religion needs to get it's ass out of our bedrooms and vaginas.  Instead of attacking single women, they need to shut the f*ck up or help.  

Quoting JanuaryBaby06:

So in your opinion whats the difference? Whether single, divorced or single the child doesn't have a man in the house & may suffer finical and every other way if they have to do it on their own... so in that way it's all the same thing.


Quoting PinkButterfly66:

No surprise.  That's the real reason behind most anti-abortionists desire to outlaw abortion.  They want women who can have children become breeders for the childless christians.




bozobean
by Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 7:47 PM
This guy is an asshole.
AdrianneHill
by Bronze Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 7:52 PM
Clearly projecting. He covets some single mother's kids or life or something
cfcf
by Member on Nov. 27, 2013 at 8:37 PM
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The author of this article is almost as ridiculous as Land himself.
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