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2-Year-Old Suspended from Daycare Over Cheese Sandwich

Posted by on Mar. 13, 2014 at 12:54 AM
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Every parent has had it happen to them at one time or another: give your kid some food and think that they ate it only to find it in the car, in the toy box, or in a pocket days later.

It's exactly what happened to a dad in Canada, and it ended in a suspension for his toddler daughter.

According to The Huffington Post, Randy Murray gave his two-year-old a cheese sandwich to eat before leaving for her daycare. He didn't realize she decided to keep it and tucked it away somewhere for later snacking.

Administrators at Centre de l'Enfant Aux 4 vents in Ottawa brought the hammer down on the little girl for violating a "no outside food" policy. Bring food to school, and you're out for three days. If the food has peanuts, students can be expelled.

Regardless of the policy, Murray is upset he didn't just get a warning.

"They freaked out." He told the Ottawa Sun. "If I got a warning, I'd admit my mistake and move on. But it seems they want to penalize the parents. There's no logic to it. I'm going to the media because I think people have to speak up when something's fishy."

Nothing's fishy, Mr. Murray. While suspension may seem extreme, the daycare has the policy in place likely because several children have severe food allergies. Know what can happen as a result? Death. Death isn't fishy or illogical. It's pretty clear cut.

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The daycare director confirms the policy is in place for a reason. "We do have children with multiple allergies, and the parents are more than happy that we have all these things in place to protect the children."

I'll admit, I didn't really understand the gravity of food allergies and how intense having a child who is allergic to things can be for parents until I met a really great couple with a daughter who is allergic to a lot of foods, including peanuts. Seeing what her parents go through to keep her safe and imagining the stress they must feel when they can't be there to watch what she eats must be overwhelming. Think about it: every day they have to send their daughter off into the world knowing that simply coming into contact with a commonplace food item could seriously hurt her. I would be a wreck.

That's why when the day I packed peanut butter crackers in my daughter's preschool snack box earned me a strict talking to, I didn't mind for one second. It's easy to see how one careless move on my part could have resulted in tragedy for another family. Thank god for allergy awareness and vigilant teachers. While I understand the cheese sandwich was an oversight and that suspension is harsh, Murray should understand that it's because food allergies are serious business. He apparently doesn't see it that way and says he's looking for new childcare options for his children.

What do you think? Is the school being too harsh over what was an accident or is the suspension a great wake up call for someone who clearly isn't taking food allergies seriously?

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by on Mar. 13, 2014 at 12:54 AM
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by Ruby Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 1:36 AM
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That's stupid.

Teachers and administration don't have to treat parents like 5-year olds. YES, THEY CAN. But they don't have to.

by Bronze Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 3:14 AM
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I agree with Sally, it's stupid. I get the reason for the policy. Is this a state funded program or something? I'd find another one. Any place that acted like that wouldn't get my business.

Plus, it is my personal opinion that if a kid has allergies that bad, the parents need to deal with it and not put it off to someone else. Then pay for a specialized higher care preschool/ care center or don't send them. Stuff like this happens unintentionally, and a child could die- then keep your kid at home until they are old enough to know better. I would. It's like any other serious health issue, I wouldn't just trust anyone with the life of my child. Just my opinion, and honeslty I don't care about others' opinions...

I hope the dad finds another place. Things happen, especially with toddlers. If it's privately owned, I think they'd try harder to keep a customer. And if this is state funded, he probably has no room to complain...then pay privately for a higher end place.

by Gold Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 12:54 PM

I'm inclined to agree with these two moms on this.

by Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 12:57 PM

It was an accident surely one warning would be allowed? It would be different if he sent it in intentionally. 

by Bronze Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 4:42 PM
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Eleven people (not kids,   all people) die from food allergies a year.      Your kid is way more likely to be struck by lightening in his/her bed.      We've gone way overboard with this.

by Humboldt California on Mar. 14, 2014 at 12:40 AM

I'm a mother of a child with a food allergy and this is simply unreasonable. For so many reasons. 

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