Here for a little more guidence

Hello, :)

First of all, welcome to the group! You've attracted a wonderful safe space to share, learn, and grow in.

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So my question is if I want to make my life atract better things do I have make my relation ship better with my in laws? I mean cuz I dont really want to, but I cant ever stop thingking that maybe thats why I'm not feeling really happy, Its like having a huge weight over my body and I know I should probably talk about the problem with my sis in law but I dont want them to think that I'm giving in, I mean I know my sis in law gets mad becouse we dont go over to their house but I dont want to be there unfortunate day that the cops could come take them to jail and think we had something to do with it, so how do I make them understand that , thats the main reason I dont want nothing to do with them?

I want to tell you that it's possible to have a respectful relationship with your in-laws, AND hold boundaries that you feel are necessary. It sounds like you are pretty clear about the kind of relationship you would prefer to have with your in-laws. One that is civil, AND one that allows you to honor what your heart is telling you!! IT IS OK FOR YOU TO FEEL GOOD IN ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE!! You can still hold your in-laws in the light and thank them internally for giving you an opportunity to learn about yourself - an opportunity to observe what you don't want so that you can identify and focus on what you DO want. Think of it this way, you have attracted an opportunity to be Selfish about your preferences. Selfish is the same as Self-care. And in the world of deliberate attraction, Self-care is a REQUIREMENT.  Would you eat something that didn't taste good to you? Would you wear clothes that didn't fit you? The situation that you've shared with us is no different.

Another tip;  whenever you are saying no to something, you are also saying yes to something else. Instead of putting your focus on what you're saying no to, begin to focus on what you are saying YES to. What you're saying YES to is in alignment with what you want. So for example, right now you are saying no to having a "too close" relationship with your in-law because you feel that it could potentially violate your safety. So what is it that you are saying YES to? For one, you're saying yes to a safe environment for yourself and your child. Tonight, make a list or write a journal entry about what else you are saying Yes to.

Say YES to what's in your heart.

Blessings,
Sara E.