Selfish?

[Mad_Hexer]

 Hi,

I'm Ren, married with a daugher..  I have been studying the law of attraction for about 2 years..  I have put it into effect in my life with some incredible results..  Seriously..  Wonderful, incredible results.. 

I have a question..  I understand that not everyone believes in the LOA and I get that in order for it to work, you must believe it..  But what if you have a friend who is always doing the "poor me" thing?  he says things like "I wish my family was as happy and successful as yours is" or "you are so lucky"..  Ok, I'm not lucky, I just choose to be happy..  No brainer right? 

He also says stuff like "I hate my job, I hate my salary"..  Well he hated it so much that his entire office went out of business and now he has no job and 5 kids to feed..  I tried to explain (in a very nice tactful way) that by saying things like that over and over, he got just what he asked for..  NO JOB..  Well he still refuses to help himself, to be more positive, to simply BE happy..  For the longest time I tried to use the LOA for him..  But I realized that I can't make him FEEL anything..  He has to do that himself.. 

He is my best friend, I want to help him, I want him to understand how easy the LOA really is, but he refuses to try..

Is it selfish of me to just say "the hell with it" and concentrate on my own happiness and the happiness of my family? 

What else can I do?  I would love some suggestions..

Ren

[workingfromhome]

This is just a shot out of left field, but did you suggest to him (or give to him) the book/dvd  the secret. I actually have a best friend and she was the same way, always down in the dumps and that is where she continued to head and I sent her a copy of the dvd, this was just about 2 weeks ago. She calls me periodically back in the dumps but we talk it out and find the strength and positive in her situation together. Your right, you can't do it for someone, but being such a good friend, you don't want to suround yourself with that either. I know exactly where your coming from. I hope this helps a little. I have just started using the method and I LOVE IT but I don't have much experience yet!

[Mad_Hexer]

Yes, i bought him a copy of The Secret, he watched it and laughed it off..

Sarah, thanks so much for the advice..  Sometimes you are too close to the situation, and you need to step back and look at it from another angle..   Thanks for helping me do that..

Ren

[lctiny]

Don't ever give up on helping someone you care for..when he rants about negitive things remind him of all the good positive things there are in his life and life in itself.  your life is how you choose to make it he chooses it to be bad or else he would make it better..he needs a little push in the right direction....don't give up find his good points and help him focus he's just lost right now.

[rosesrred1]

~very interesting~  I definately want to learn more about the "Laws of Attraction"

[SecretDesigns]

It is not selfish to create your life your way.  That's what you are here for.  LOL

Create the energy you wish to experience with your friend and allow him to make his own choices.  Remember the people will zig when you zag part of the Secret???

Remember too that contrast is often the jumping off or starting point for people to start thinking about wanting something different in their lives.  We shouldn't try to take that from others.  The situation that has been created is what gives birth to a new thought of wanting something else.

When we allow others to "walk their own path" as my Native Ameican ancestors stated.. we can be an influence.. by living our lives fully, joyfully and with great expression of happiness.  You are living the LOA.. that is a LOUD statement to your friend.  Seems he realizes you are "doing something different".  Keep sharing, but more importantly.. keep living it.  That's the real message.. a life lived.. people notice that far more than words.

Smiles,

Donna

[SecretDesigns]

To thine own self be true is good wisdom. 

Being focused on what you want to experience actually lifts others up so that they can more easily decide to shift a bit too.  However, you are not in charge of others, it's not your job to fix them.  They, like you, have free will. 

The most powerful help we can offer anyone is to live so joyfully that others watching see it and join in. 

Be IN Joy,

Donna