I'm Mom2Alex and I'm here to vent, my battle..um plight with MIL.
I had 3 years of , caddy, narcissistic, martyr, bi-polar , crude, ill mannered, deceitful, lying, MIL who's hated me since day1 all cause I took a liking to my DH. Thankfully she lives in CA and we're in NC. And she's only visited once cause gambling is more important then seeing her son. I use to be a good DIL and take her hurtful comments with a grain of salt and did the British way and have a stiff upper lip. But since my son was born and having a C section. 4 Days after that MIL decided to visit and all see wanted was to hold DS for 4 days not letting me bond, feed, change his clothes or diapers, burp or but him to sleep. Her excuses made me sick. PPD kicked into high gear. DH and I fought cause MIL kept going to him "DIL wont let me hold him" "I need to bond" " I need to hold the baby" my PPD was so bad I gave up , gave her what she wanted and no one said shit. DH and I now fight again 2 in 3 days cause now MIL was complaining that I'm not spending time with the baby. As always nothings good enough for that woman. When she finally left THANKFULLY I was medicated which helped a lot. And after coming to terms with the way she used me and the way she treated me like I was a walking uterus. Basically "I grew a back bone" . I cut off MIL. I haven't said one word to her in 4 months. It's been the most WONDERFUL 4 months since I found out we were pregnant. This bugged the CRAP out of her and DH thought I was being to harsh with her .. till she referred to our son on 4 separate occasions (he was 4 -5 months old at the time) she called in her words "Over weight" .. yeah, he weighed a whole say 16 lbs. Not really big for his size (daddy looks like one of those guys from Europe that lift those huge weights so he's got the body of a line backer) then she called him "SLOW" and that was said between her and DH. The last comment pushed him over the edge and he told her off. That's when DH came to me. Apologized for accusing me of making up excuses to avoid MIL.
DH has given me his blessing for a cut off.
Amen for the cut off!!!!
I have a crazy overbearing mil and she is a wicked bitch. But, would always say its me... not her. Last November Dh finally saw the true side of his whacked out mother and the cut off began, She still thinks its a joke and texts him to ask if she can see our kids (that's how dumb she is)
We just found out from his sister (the whole family is controlled by her, so it was a full family cut off) who we haven't spoke to since Nov 2011. She told us she is in therapy because of there mom and said she now understands how crazy she is. But the stepping point to the cut off started when my dh got a call from said sister and all he could hear was screaming( our kids were with her). He freaked out called the police to his moms house (that's where his sis was) made me and our other 2 kids get in the car and we flew to his moms house. The story he got was that said sis was the crazy one and she started a fight, yada,yada,yada.... and then left. Well the shit hit the fan at that point but Dh wanted to still think his mom wasn't nuts. so said sis told him this week what really happened..... Get this shit..
His mom and dad where fighting in front of my babies 3 and 2, the sister said I'm going to call my dh and I to get the kids cause they didn't need to hear yelling, phone call was placed and that's when his mom threatened to kill my sil, pushed her against the wall and tried to bash her head in with a glass vase...... What a fucking crazy bitch! My mil text'd my sil all that night after she left, saying not to open her mouth about what happened or she was going to come beat the shit outta her. My sil was so scared she stayed with a friend for 3 days. ( a little info on my sil she is slow mentally, she said she didn't test for mentally retarded but in my opinion she is darn close) Who does that to there kids.... or ANYONE! Whitetrash bitches i guess? lol
Now my dh told his sis, if she sees mom to tell her the day he sees her again will be her funeral.
Im SOOOOOOOOOOO happy! Tired of that crazy bitch... If you read post on here you can hear the other stories about her, there are plenty more.
WOW!! Congrats on the cut off for your family. Yes the kids DON'T need to see that type of violence.
DH and I agreed that with my cut off I have no obligation to MIL. No birthday Cards, Mother's Day, Christmas, on Phone calls, emails (I changed my email too) , nothing. But I wouldn't stop her from talking to DH or DS as long as she stayed on fairly good behavior. DH and I agreed that as long as she doesn't say anything to hurt DS she can see him and that she can't say anything negative about me to DS ...But..
Mil Told DH that she Already Sent me flowers for mother's day. He didn't tell me for 3 days and when he did I told him to tell her no. But it was too late. The thing is I'm DETHLY ALLERGIC to trees, grass, FLOWER'S. So when they arrived I thought she maybe sent them as a Peace offering with an apology. The card read "Hope you have a good 1st mother's day". So after reading the card DH tossed them.
Well I go to my Crazy doc next Tuesday for more meds. I was never medicated till I had to deal with the 4 foot witch.
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