My daughter has never been a girly girl...it used to make me kinda sad but it's turned her into this fierce, strong, independent teenager. She always had a strong personality and did things HER way...never wanted the dolls or bows in her hair.
One of her best friends has been a girly girl since preschool and still is. Not only is she not involved in any sports (which is perfectly fine!!!) but when they are otgether, she never wants to get her hands dirty..literally....All she wants to do is paint her fingernails and straighten her hair. LOL!
I notice the last couple of years, my daughter has gravitated to her other best friend more. They are so much alike and completely into every sport and every activity school has to offer. They love anything outdoors and are so social. What I love is that they aren't "fussy"...they can put their hair in a ponytail and head on out in a minute's notice instead of fussing about themselves and running late.
It's just that I never thought she would prefer this one friend over the other. I LOVE both girls but in a way it's sad to see one strong friendship wither away that's been so good for so long.
Do you like your daughter's friends? Are they like her?
My 16yr old DD is both ways. She's not afraid to get her painted nails dirty or her straightened hair messy. Guess I'm lucky. Here recently she stopped talking to her bff since birth because she was too into her boyfriend and my dd was just sick of hearing about it and dealing with the drama. Thankfully, she's really not into HS drama like a lot of kids are. She has friends that are sporty and friends that are "girly". So she adapts to which one she's hanging out with at the moment.
my daughter is 9 months old she has no friends only her big brother who she adores
I have a 16 yr old who is by no means "girly" but she is very feminine to say the least. What I mean is, when you see her run, she runs like a girl but she plays sports and get rough and tumble and puts her hair back and doesn't give a tinker's darn who sees her, including boys. lol She has both types of girl friends. One is really feminine and one who doesn't really care about looking and acting girly. Both friends can be annoying at times but they are my daughters friends and she has to learn how to choose the people she wants to be around so i try and let her have her freedom. She has a pretty good head on her shoulders most of the time anyway. I think I have only ever had to point out to her once or twice about the kind of friend was hanging out with. I also have to keep reminding myself that I am probably not going to like some of her taste in people but lets get realistic here..she doesn't like some of my taste in people either. lol As long as she keeps proving that she has a good head on her shoulders, then I will continue to let her have her friends, even the ones I don't like.
My DD has mostly friends that are like her - girly AND sporty. She has one friend that is waaaaaay more girly than she is, and boy crazy, too. I'm kinda glad they don't hang out all that often.
She has a good friend that is very different from herself. C. loves to read, plays chess, fish, crab and study insects and animals. She loves to cook and eats almost everythi8ng, likes to try new foods. Her friend isn't interested in any of those things, and is a very picky eater. She's not into makeup, latest hair styles and gadgets, boy bands or the latest fashion, but her friend sure is. Her friend is very athletic and enjoys sports. C doesn't really care for sports. And they get along great. They both love stuffed animals, and love to swim, surf and go to the beach, and enjoy music. We took the friend with us twice on trips and the girls had a great time together. Their heads were always together talking and giggling. C has other friends with similar interests, but seeing her with this friend makes me realize how independent she is in her thinking.
Happy Mothers's Day!
- TheJerseyGirl
on May. 31, 2012 at 4:28 AM