How do you think the men in your daughter's life contribute to her self-esteem, confidence, and the overall development of her identity?
My DF is a very positive role model for her. So are the grandpas in her life. Her BD not so much. She hates him. (not my doing, she is old enough that she formed her own opinions and knows what he has done to her) I just hope she never falls for a guy like that (my mistake). She sees all the positive around us now and my kids are so happy. Never thought my youngest would smile and laugh and she is doing a lot of that now.
The main one is her dad. And he makes sure she knows she's awesome because SHE thinks she is, not just because other people think she is. That plays a big part in it. Others are an uncle she sees sometimes, and my dad who she just recently saw for the first time in 3 years. But when she got her phone, she sent him a text saying "I love you, Florida Papaw". And my dad, who in his life has sent just one other text, replied back "I love you too, Kyra" after she'd been told by my step mom that dad doesn't text. Totally made her day that her Floriday Papaw would text her back even though he doesn't like texting :)
I love this, especially about your daughter's dad. My dad was the same way as I was growing up, and a real role model. It makes all the difference in the world, I think.
And now my husband is very similar with our DD. I'd say he's more physically affectionate than my dad was with me, but it's amazing to watch all the different men in her life interact with her in their own unique ways. Makes a world of difference, especially for a young girl.
Quoting Kiwismommy19:The main one is her dad. And he makes sure she knows she's awesome because SHE thinks she is, not just because other people think she is. That plays a big part in it. Others are an uncle she sees sometimes, and my dad who she just recently saw for the first time in 3 years. But when she got her phone, she sent him a text saying "I love you, Florida Papaw". And my dad, who in his life has sent just one other text, replied back "I love you too, Kyra" after she'd been told by my step mom that dad doesn't text. Totally made her day that her Floriday Papaw would text her back even though he doesn't like texting :)
I think they will definitely set the score for their future relationships and definitely will impact their self esteem in so many ways. It took DH a lot of time to adjust to being the father of girls but I think he is steadily getting the picture of his role. Also acknowledging the role my father played in my life sheds a lot of light on how he should act around his daughters.
The main man in my daughter's life is my Husband. She has a 2 grandpas but one almost never sees her and the other can't speak because he had his voice box removed, he usually just waves at her and hugs her and that is it.
I think the way my husband interacts with our girls is so important. He teaches them that they are loved no matter what, that they have a lot of self worth, that they are beautiful. He also teaches them how to respect a man and what kind of treatment is acceptable by a man.
It's amazing how influential men are on our daughters, don't you think? I think it's a bit noticeable when they're younger, but as they grow up, I think the effects are more pronounced. And by adulthood? Wow.
Quoting Mrs.Andrews:The main man in my daughter's life is my Husband. She has a 2 grandpas but one almost never sees her and the other can't speak because he had his voice box removed, he usually just waves at her and hugs her and that is it.
I think the way my husband interacts with our girls is so important. He teaches them that they are loved no matter what, that they have a lot of self worth, that they are beautiful. He also teaches them how to respect a man and what kind of treatment is acceptable by a man.
Happy Mothers's Day!
- SlightlyPerfect
on Jul. 6, 2012 at 3:03 PM