Do you ever feel a need to be beautiful?
Hi ladies,
As a young girl, did you ever feel pressure to be beautiful? Do you still feel the same now that you are an adult?
I got made fun of all the time for the way I looked. The way I dressed, the way my hair was. I had no clue and my Mom never helped me look better. I had a boyfriend in 6th grade who started treating me like crap one day because my outfit was so bad looking. It sucked.
I am really overweight now. That pretty much rules the way I think of myself so yes, I feel pressure to be beautiful.
I have 2 little girls. I always take the time to dress them in outfits that match and fit right. I do their hair, well one of them, the little one is still a bald baby. I want to teach my girls to take care of themselves and look their best all the time. Even if that usually means t-shirt and jeans. I want to teach them my best how to look nice and present their best everyday.
growing up was crazy for me cause i was a tomboy with a over developed figure. I did not wear make up, i was a jeans and tee shirt girl. No luck covering up though which was hard.
In my teen years I did feel a need to be beautiful. Now that I'm older I'm still insecure about my looks but I don't feel the "need" to be beautiful anymore.
As a young girl-elementary school young, I didn't even notice the difference in beauty. When I entered junior high and later high school I started to feel the pressure to be beautiful.
Now that I am an adult and am married with kids, I no longer feel the need to be beautiful. There are times like date night or other special occasions when I take more time to get ready and actually put make up on.
As a young girl and through high school there were times when I felt less that pretty, but I tried to make the most of what I had with makeup, hair styles and clothes. As an adult-not so much. I realized that as long as you're well groomed, most people look at more than just what a person looks like. Knowing that gives me confidence that was lacking when I was younger.
Remembering what it felt like to be a young girl should help us moms with daughters.
I can honestly say no. I accept that I'm average in appearance, but how I regard myself has never been based on what I see in the mirror. I just doesn't matter to me.
Of course I keep myself clean, neat, laundered. Sometimes I wear make-up and/or "do" my hair beyond brushing it, but it isn't the end of the world if I don't either. The other side of this is that no one expects me to either. I look like "m"e all the time.
Interestingly, I reconnected with a few people from my high school years because they saw an article about me. One of them sent me an email and commented that they had always admired my "sense of style" (which at the time was thrift store chic) back in our school days.
Oh wow. Yes I did feel the pressure of being beautiful at all times. Then I got married to the most wonderful man on the planet. He showed me that I was beautiful in ways I never would have thought beauty could be seen from. Now, I know that I only need to feel beautiful when I want to feel beautiful, not because I have to. And I try to communicate that thinking to my daughters.
Happy Mothers's Day!
- Cafe AmyB
on Jul. 10, 2012 at 11:40 AM