Do you ever feel like society looks down on you, like you are oppressed or weak because you stay home and don't have a career outside of the home?
What do you do to encourage your DD that being a SAHM IS (despite how society may portray it) a wonderful thing?
I got a phone call from a telemarketer, trying to sell me some kind of student loan or continuing education. When I told him I wasn't interested, he seriously tried to make me feel like some stupid white trash because I would dare to choose to stay home with my babies.
Now, I totally get that being a SAHM isn't for everyone, but neither is being a carreer woman, and I just get tired sometimes of being made to feel like I am weak or stupid for my choice (because I know I am not)
Blessed Mommy to: Angel Baby : 07/08/08 Alexander Jayce:05/21/09 Kalea Brielle: 06/03/10 Michael Zachary 09/22/11 Angel Baby: 07/02/12
I 'm a stay at home mom now.... ( well since the youngest she is 8).... But i worked when the two older ones was little... i see both worlds working mom and stay at home moms.. no matter what if your a stay at home mom or working mom.. you are still doing something for your kiddos...
Hi,
I am a sahm and will never get some peoples negative reactions to it either?What is wrong with wanting to raise your own kids and be there for your husband when he gets home?My dh and I are a team.He brings home the bacon and I cook it....lol..
Having a career is wonderful but I decided to put mine on hold when the kids were smaller.I have no regrets....I didnt miss anything with my kids.My kids are older now and I am thinking about getting back into the workforce and continue my degree.It will be harder to get my feet wet....but still doable.
As a sahm respect yourself and value your traditional belief in family.Having a parent involved at home makes society a better place(Half the time we are babysitting neighborhood kids so parents can work).We are raising our own kids and that should be praised not looked down on.
As for my kids they love me being at home.My daughter appreciates and sees all I do,but definitely heading towards a career girl.My son loved me being at home except for when he was a teen and tried to sneek girls in through his window.....no chance.....lol...
~Tia
I wish I was a SAHM. I did have the opportunity for a brief time and I loved it. My life was a lot less stressful and I truly loved being there for my kids.
I am also a sahm and don't understand either, why being a sahm, would cause so much contention with someone else. Its a choice, just like any other choice that is made. My children have often said they don't know how I do it being with them all the time. Even though they feel I am in their business and don't like that, they say they admire me for doing it because it takes a courage and strength to be around kids all the time. They also have said that they are not too sure they could do what I do. Of course I tell them they can, because they can do anything they set their minds to. : )
I do agree with you about society. I think Moms who stay at home are important. If know one stays home and raises the kids, how is the next generation going to know how to act, how to take care of themselves, clean their homes, cook, care for children, etc? Not everyone is cut out for a career, and not everyone is cut out to stay at home with a bunch of kids all day. Both jobs are hard in different ways. One is not more important or harder than the other.
For the past 10 yrs. I was a working mother untill a few months ago when I got fired. I never got to see me kids except in the am,since I didnt get off work untill 10pm. Thats how it was for the last 4 years. I missed them like crazy,and always felt guilty. Getting fired has been hard,but me and the kids are so much happier now,because I can be such a bigger part of their lives. It is such a awesome feeling to be here with the kids more now!
Hello Dear , there is nothing wrong being a SAHM. You should be proud of yourself that you are fullfilling all your family responsibility in the best way. If you are feeling so low about you staying at home , you can work at home and make lot of money and prove yourself that you are no less than others. If you want I can help you with this......
Sometimes it's not a even a decision. I couldn't go back to work at first. My husband didn't make enough to also pay for daycare. And my job, by the time I would have paid for daycare and put gas in my car for the week, there was no paycheck left. So it was easy. Why would I spend my entire paycheck to have someone else watch my kid. It was a struggle until my DH found a better job, but we made it. C'mon it's not like we sit around all day and watch soap operas (not ALL day at least lol) and eat bon bons. We contribute to our household just as much as the money would.
Happy Mothers's Day!
- HamBergerMama
on Jul. 20, 2012 at 10:49 PM