Solving Problems

[SweetLuci]

 Encourage her to solve issues on her own rather than fixing things for her.
"When parents take over, girls don't develop the coping skills they need to handle situations on their own. Ask your daughter to consider three strategies she might use to deal with a situation, and then ask her about the possible outcomes. Let her decide what she wants to do (within reason). Even if you disagree with her choice, you give your daughter a sense of control over her life and show her that she is responsible for her decisions," says Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out.

What do you think of this?

[4kidz916]

I agree.  It's good for them to try and solve things on their own.  Of course as a parent we do need to guide them once in a while. 

[SweetLuci]

 I agree. Knowing where that fine line is, is difficult, but I think part of a parent's job is teaching them to make decisions, and the only way to do that is to let them make decisions, and live with the results. Which decisions we allow them to make depends on their age and maturity. And rather than being a helicopter parent, I do want them to know I'm always there for advice and support, but I try to let go a little more as she gets older and shows she's making good decisions.

Quoting 4kidz916:

I agree.  It's good for them to try and solve things on their own.  Of course as a parent we do need to guide them once in a while. 

 

[Harris06]

I agree. Although it is in our natures as mothers to fix anything that we an for our children in the long run that just winds up hurting them more than helping.

[SweetLuci]

 Well said.

Quoting Harris06:

I agree. Although it is in our natures as mothers to fix anything that we an for our children in the long run that just winds up hurting them more than helping.

 

[HamBergerMama]

I agree so much! much much more is learned by failure (which will inevitably happen if our dd's are learning how to make wise decisions) The actual brain power andTHINKING that is developed by problem solving can not be matched by us making life and decisions "easy" for them. 

[SweetLuci]

 So true!

Quoting HamBergerMama:

I agree so much! much much more is learned by failure (which will inevitably happen if our dd's are learning how to make wise decisions) The actual brain power andTHINKING that is developed by problem solving can not be matched by us making life and decisions "easy" for them. 

 

[Kmakksmom]

I definitely agree with this.