Can your daughter come to you to talk about anything? How do you make sure she knows she can?
My kids know they can come to me with anything. We've just always had an honest, open relationship and they feel comfortable talking to me about things.
My girls are still young but they know that they can come to me. Sometimes all it takes is me stopping what I am doing and sitting down beside her and asking her what she is thinking about.
They both come up to me and talk to me about ANYTHING! But they are only 7 and 4 right now.
She's only 3. But I've told her that before. And at this age, she tells me everything an then some.
I tell her by word and action. When she seems to be upset about something, I remind her that I'm there when she needs to talk, and when she comes to me and starts talking, I listen. I try to stop what I'm doing, and give her my full attention. If that's not possible to stop what I'm doing, I explain, and tell her how long it will be till I can stop . Then I make sure I go to her at that time. I try to echo back what she's saying, to make sure I'm understanding what she's saying. Sometimes she just needs a sounding board, and really doesn't want my advice, so I don't give it unless she asks. I let her do most of the talking, and I try to say what it seems her feeling are. Like I might say, "It sounds like that made you angry", or ask a question like "how did it make you feel when that happened". I try to get her to talk about how she feels about things. I try not to be judgemental. I want her to feel she can come to me about anything and I'll understand and try to help her.
Yes for sure. I hadn't thought about making sure that she knows it, though. I need to work on that.
Yes. She is already very open with me. I make sure she knows she can by telling her often that she can always come to me.
Yes, My dd talks to me about everything even if I don't wana know lol. I have always told her she can come to me for anything.
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