I have a 12 year old daughter that is driving me crazy. You ask her to do anything she does not do it. She is going behind my back and asking her cousin to do things I say no to. She is crying at the drop of a pin and there isn't enough to say about the attitude. I know the moms out there that has gone through this is laughing at me right now and I know the hormonal part is kicking in with her. She has not started her period yet and it can not come soon enough. I have even went as far as buying a bottle of Midol and told her to take one a day just to see if it helps with anything. I have grounded her for the lies and going behind my back. Nothing seems to sink into her thick skull. I am hoping this is a phase that I pray is going to hurry up and pass but I don't know. I have sat back and cried because I don't know what to do. I refuse to have a kid that is one that talks to their mom any old way and is doing as she pleases. She is not allowed to run the streets or anything like that. She has played softball and basketball and I try to make sure both kids stay busy in something hoping it will keep them busy with something and not getting into trouble. My son is 17 and I didn't have problems like this with him. I do not know what else to try. I am at my wit end. I guess I know down deep inside this is just hormones and I am venting but any suggestions on to how to deal with this would greatly be appreciated.