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Your girls and peer pressure?

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How do you teach your girls how to make a stand against peer pressure?

My daughter is in 2nd grade and deals with peer pressure a lot- sometimes she does well with it and other times she really struggles- when it comes to your daughters and peer pressure what methods do you teach them to use in handling it?

by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 3:19 PM
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JoJoBean8
by Bronze Member on Oct. 7, 2012 at 8:02 PM

I developed young. By the time this happened I had already been wearing a bra for 2 years and knew my body looked different but still thought I was the same. IN my case I was the youngest in my family where as everybody in my class where the oldest. I think my family kept me more sheltered since I was the youngest vs their families didn't know to shelter them since they were the oldest. 

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Did that coincide at all with your sexual development? Because, looking back, I can remember kids compartmentalizing and judging on physical characteristics as early as preschool, especially kids (I learned about later) who were from divorced homes. Like, they learned about "exclusion" far earlier than others.

Quoting JoJoBean8:

I think it starts when you get to an age where you understand exclusion. For me that was around 12.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

What do you think triggers that, though? If we can assume kids, in their natural state, don't give a shit about what other people think about them, what changes that? And is this a natural thing, something that's just inevitable? Or is it learned?

When I was younger, I was quick to assume it was sexuality. You start to notice what other people think (to the point it affects your behavior) around the time you start to develop sexually. But as I look back and through this group and through research, socially it seems to happen when the cohesion of a group breaks down and an individual is left alone or faced without or (worse?) against the group. This can be family. This can be friends. This can be academic. This can be... anything. Once that cohesion is gone--once our self-interest is violated--it's so important to get it back, nothing else matters.

Quoting JoJoBean8:

My dd is still to young to care what others think about her





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