I have recently left my boyfriend of 12 years. We have been apart almost 3 months. We have 2 young children together (6 yrs and 4yrs). It started out really good. Their father had been watching them while I was at work. But then when he started getting mad he would say he wouldn't watch them. Or he wasn't taking my daughter to school for a slight tummy ache she had, which was from him giving her too much sugar the night before. He would threaten to not send our daughter to school.
I started having my mom watch them to be more stable. This week she was gone for a couple days to go on a short trip with her husband. The kids' dad said he would watch them. I am supposed to be at work at 8:30 and I have a 30 min commute. He didn't make it home from a night out until 8:20. I already have been keeping the kids with my mom during the week so I don't miss work or won't be late for work, and only been asking him to watch them during the week when my mom has things to do. I have worked with him and given him as many chances as I could to keep them all the time but he keeps screwing it up.
I told him I am no longer going to ask him to take the kids during the week. He told me it is illegal because we were never married and I never filed for custody, we have joint custody. There is no parenting plan in place but I am wanting to get one in place. But in the mean time, is that illegal? They call him every night and see him every weekend. I just don't want them over there during the week because he is not dependable. I live in Oregon and I am having a hard time finding the exact laws on it.