Winning feels great, but wining is not something most people think do often (except maybe someone who wins the lottery for life!). Some people feel like they never win at anything which is totally demoralizing and confidence-crushing, but luckily this is not the case, to me at least, because I like to think of winning in a similar way to earning. When you work hard and practice something over and over, you are likely to succeed and earn something, or win something, from your efforts. Looking at it this way, everyone who is alive is winning things every day, pointing these accomplishments out to your kids and helping them realize what great winners they are will give them a real boost of self-confidence now, and bring them strength down the road in hard times, or in times when they might doubt themselves or feel down.
What are things that kids win at everyday, that you can point out to them? Simple things, but simple things that are SO important that they are actually helping to shape your kids' lives, whether they realize it or not, and empowering them in many ways. Things like:
-Winning or earning other people's respect (ranging from peers, to teachers, to siblings, neighbors or parents).
-Captivating or winning other people's positive attention (either from a presentation, a performance, or just from having interesting things to say or helpful information to share.)
-Winning others people's affection and love (from family to peers, or even pets, this is a powerful emotion that no one can live without, yet many take for granted each day)
-Winning at games (be they important like a high school sports, hide and seek with friends, or basic like a family board game. Often, there is luck involved but focus and attention help people win too, as does patience and perseverance which are great skills to develop.)
-Winning over people's mood (this to me, might be the most rewarding: if your daughter's joy, energy, intelligence or spirit brings new life and light to others around her, this is a really powerful thing and one she should be proud of, and gain much self confidence from.)
Pointing out to your daughters all that they have won and earned, and continue to win, through their positive outlook, strength of character, positive influence, dedication, hard work, and attention will help them feel more self aware of the good they bring to the world, and more self-confident because of this.
How do you help your girls recognize what great winners they are?