A girl I used to call my best friend who was also the maid of honor at my wedding (I was also hers) who has been a terrible friend for the last couple years is pregnant and is having a baby shower February 17. (Bad friend because she did not contact me at all when my father died, she did not tell me she and her husband bought a house, she did not tell me her husband was injured while deployed and got sent home, she did not contact me when my daughter was born and then was incredibly insensitive when my baby and i were in the hospital for 3 weeks after her birth) I received the invitation yesterday. The baby shower is at 10:30am and is 4 hours away. The invitation says no children allowed. My DH will not be here so he can't watch the baby, so I would have to bring her with me. I'd also have to leave at 6am and my dog would be stuck in her crate for hours until I got home. A 4 hour trip with the baby on my own is a lot, in my opinion. Also, this may seem petty but this girl never sent any gifts when my baby was born and she did not attend my baby shower that was held 2 months after my baby was born. I don't want to attend this shower but I feel like I have to. It seems more like of a hassle than anything else. I'm very sad that this girl and I are not at close as we used to be, we were inseparable for a long time, but I honestly don't blame myself--I made so much effort and got very little in return. Ugh. I just need advice on how to handle this!
****UPDATE: so I told her I wouldn't be attending and explained it would be tough for several reasons. She said "life is hard for everyone right now, you wouldn't have had fun anyway." Ummmmm kind of a strange response and I feel it is fairly disingenuous but whatever, I'm off the hook now. I'll send a gift it's the least I can do. Ugh. I wish friends didn't change! But it happens to us all...
on Jan. 13, 2013 at 7:58 AM