Have any other moms had to manufacture a support system?
I've been feeling especially frustrated lately that my kids don't have 'grandparents' like I did. My mother lives right here in the same town, but she hardly ever bothers with the kids, and when I most need a break from them, she is always too busy and 'maybe in a few weeks,' and even when she does 'plan' to take them, it's always an "I might take them Saturday (or Sunday), and I don't even know until like NOON if she is going to.
My husband's mother lives in SD and his siblings are all far away.
I feel so ALONE.
When I was growing up, I was at my grandmother's house all the time. Almost every weekend. Not because my mother worked, but because Grandma wanted her grandchild around.
It breaks my heart that my mother can't manage to make time for my kids and lately I am feeling just like "I need a BREAK" and that's making me even more resentful of her apathy towards my kids. It actually feels like an anxiety attack.
I can't 'make' her be the grandparent my grandmother was, but I've been trying to find some kind of 'Surrogate Grandparent" program like Big Brothers/Big Sisters, but I"m coming up with nothing.
Has anyone else dealt with this? What did you do?