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Why I Hate Christmas

Posted by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 4:35 PM
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Sorry to be the spoil sport but I do. It's just a reason for people to treat each other like crap feel guilty for not having everything and is nothing but commercialize at it's worst. I have never taught my kids Santa I have participated in maxing out every credit card to buy dozens of gifts my kids don't need. We've always happily done the churchs version of what Christmas is suppose to be. Now my step son has come to live with us and all sudden it's suppose to be about Santa and as much stuff as we could possible get. We bought the kids leap pads because I wanted something fun for them that,was nonviolent. So my mil bought my stepson a tablet my kids get nothing. My husbands aunts and uncles all sent stuff for my step son my kids got nothing. My step sons mom sent a hundred dollar so my husband is gonna take him out for whatever he wants our kids get nothing. But he can't see why this is at all upsetting. Really so ready for Christmas to over.
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MamaJessx3
by Jess on Dec. 18, 2012 at 5:05 PM
I'm sorry :(

On the other hand, I can understand why they would send gifts for their grandchild/nephew and not your kids. You can't always expect them to send gifts for kids that aren't technically their grand kids or niece or nephew (even though by law they are). And you cant expect them to not send gifts for your stepson just because you have other kids. this is just something that comes with being a blended famiky. Plus, I know times are tough right now for many people and buying gifts can be expensive so some people can't afford to buy gifts for everyone in the family. I'm sure your kids will still have a wonderful Christmas no matter what. Just try and make it a special as you can for all your kids gifts or no gifts :)
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GOBryan
by Bronze Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 6:47 PM
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It's a shame that your kids are treated that way. I would certainly mention something and tell them to give something, no matter how cheap or small, to all of them or none of them. Plain and simple. As far as bad treatment.. I haven't experienced that nor do I even have credit cards to max out and if I did, I still wouldn't max them out. My kids enjoy Christmas and we make it about family. I do get them presents but most are from Goodwill because I can get some good deals. I bought a Trek bike for my son for $20.. It's a $340. value.. I bought a $80. value bike for my daughter for $10. What I did buy new was a helmet and baskets, etc for the bikes. I did find a brand new helmet with tag at Goodwill for my daughter for about $5.00... Those are their gifts. A parent's job is to make it memorable and fun so that they can remember them for years to come as a good experience and pass traditions down to their children. 

LadyBast
by Brenda on Dec. 18, 2012 at 7:08 PM

I totally agree!

Quoting GOBryan:

It's a shame that your kids are treated that way. I would certainly mention something and tell them to give something, no matter how cheap or small, to all of them or none of them. Plain and simple. As far as bad treatment.. I haven't experienced that nor do I even have credit cards to max out and if I did, I still wouldn't max them out. My kids enjoy Christmas and we make it about family. I do get them presents but most are from Goodwill because I can get some good deals. I bought a Trek bike for my son for $20.. It's a $340. value.. I bought a $80. value bike for my daughter for $10. What I did buy new was a helmet and baskets, etc for the bikes. I did find a brand new helmet with tag at Goodwill for my daughter for about $5.00... Those are their gifts. A parent's job is to make it memorable and fun so that they can remember them for years to come as a good experience and pass traditions down to their children. 


Mommytolas
by Tricia on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:39 PM
Oh sorry I should have mentioned that my youngest is also her biological grandson. And honestly if she could afford to spend 300 dollars on a tablet then she could have sent the all something.

Quoting MamaJessx3:

I'm sorry :(



On the other hand, I can understand why they would send gifts for their grandchild/nephew and not your kids. You can't always expect them to send gifts for kids that aren't technically their grand kids or niece or nephew (even though by law they are). And you cant expect them to not send gifts for your stepson just because you have other kids. this is just something that comes with being a blended famiky. Plus, I know times are tough right now for many people and buying gifts can be expensive so some people can't afford to buy gifts for everyone in the family. I'm sure your kids will still have a wonderful Christmas no matter what. Just try and make it a special as you can for all your kids gifts or no gifts :)
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Mommytolas
by Tricia on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:44 PM
Very true that's why I need to breathe and refocus I'm just having one of those days that feels like it's coming at my from all sides! Plus Christmas is so depressing I let every little thing bother me. But I'm going to suck it up and try to do some fun stuff with them. It's just really hurting my daughters feelings and I had a bit of a mommy bear reaction.

Quoting GOBryan:

It's a shame that your kids are treated that way. I would certainly mention something and tell them to give something, no matter how cheap or small, to all of them or none of them. Plain and simple. As far as bad treatment.. I haven't experienced that nor do I even have credit cards to max out and if I did, I still wouldn't max them out. My kids enjoy Christmas and we make it about family. I do get them presents but most are from Goodwill because I can get some good deals. I bought a Trek bike for my son for $20.. It's a $340. value.. I bought a $80. value bike for my daughter for $10. What I did buy new was a helmet and baskets, etc for the bikes. I did find a brand new helmet with tag at Goodwill for my daughter for about $5.00... Those are their gifts. A parent's job is to make it memorable and fun so that they can remember them for years to come as a good experience and pass traditions down to their children. 

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Mommytolas
by Tricia on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:44 PM
Thank you to all the ladies who are reading this it helps to vent :-)
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MamaBear2cubs
by Nikki on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:49 PM

Sorry hugs

WendyJR
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 12:14 AM
When I feel blue at the holidays I try to do something fun with the kids, put on Christmas music and dance/sing with them, make cookies, read Christmas stories, snuggle up with popcorn for a Christmas movie etc. when they get excited about things it brightens my mood. Being together, making memories, and having fun is way more important than what's under the tree. 10-15 years from now they won't be able to tell me what they got present wise but they will remember how much fun we had/how much they live the holidays
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MixedCooke
by Bronze Member on Dec. 19, 2012 at 12:33 AM
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yeah me too just because of the added stress I really dont need.  family drama sucks when it is around the holidays!  Now my Mom is acting up and its like really? grow up!

fla33023
by Silver Member on Dec. 19, 2012 at 7:02 AM
Do you know why your MIL would only send a gift to one of your grandchildren? It sounds like that may need to be addressed. Otherwise, don't let the commercialism get to you! I don't even pay attention to it. My kids get what we can afford with cash and that is it. Everything always ends up just fine. Don't even let the nonsense get you upset.
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