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Do You Ask Vistors To Remove Their Shoes In Your Home?

Posted by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:29 AM
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Making People Take Off Their Shoes in Your House Is Not Rude

Posted by Adriana Velez

slippersA lot of families have a no-shoes rule for their homes. It just makes sense, especially for those of us who do the cleaning up after our kids stomp around in mud, playground gravel, and goodness knows what else. And wearing slippers or socks indoors makes everyone feel more cozy at home. I feel like taking my shoes off as soon as I get home helps me transition into a totally different (more relaxed!) mindset. It's the way I was raised, and wearing shoes inside just feels weird.

But I take this healthy habit a step further. I make all our visitors take off their shoes, too. Whether it's kids on a play date or adults coming over for dinner, I'll politely ask you to remove your shoes. In fact, I'm totally shameless about asking everyone.

I know some people think it's rude to ask visitors to remove their shoes. And I still remember that Sex and the City episode where Carrie's Manolos got stolen when a host forced her to remove them. Not everyone comes over prepared to go shoeless, I know -- and I'm not sure hanging out barefoot in my home is much better. 

But ... I just can't abide shoes indoors. In New York City, we're always walking over urine, garbage juice, dried vomit, and all kinds of toxic waste. I don't want that tracked into my home! Plus, I don't want to torment my downstairs neighbors with the sound of noisy shoes clunking around overhead. That sound carries like crazy in my building, even with rugs on the floor.

The only people who are exempt are workers. If you're here to fix the sink, install cable, or paint the walls, by all means: Keep your shoes on. Asking fix-it guys to take off their shoes just feels like going too far.

You know what, though? Asking our guests to remove their shoes in my home is never a problem. Maybe it's just that in the city, it's sort of a given that most people take off their shoes when they get home. Usually, my adult visitors kick off their shoes automatically out of habit (on the other hand, most kids will just run in). I don't even say anything.

And by the way, shoes are safe in my hallway. I've known my neighbors for 14 years. They are not shoe-stealers. And none of my friends wear Manolos. For the record, no one covets their dusty brown Merrell mocs, their dingy gray New Balance sneakers, their scuffed clogs. No one. And for those who are worried, I have no problem with people leaving their shoes just inside next to the door.

Ideally, though, I would have a lovely basket filled with soft guest slippers in all sizes. I've known other families who do this and I've just never gotten organized enough to do it myself. I know it would make asking a lot more gracious if I could also hand over the perfect pair of slippers. Make yourself more comfortable! (And help me keep my home clean ...)

Do you ask visitors to remove their shoes in your home?

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 10:29 AM
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Bawyada
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:58 PM
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I don't ask people to remove there shoes, most people automatically do though.  I figure with kids and two dogs, dirt is bound to happen, and I have to mop/vacuum anyway. 

Ferrari
by Felicia on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:23 PM
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I haven really been that great about it lately. I need to start it. I'd like to have a nice basket of slippers by the door for visitors and a shoe stand or something.g to store shoes.
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meam4444
by Representative on Jan. 14, 2013 at 4:54 PM
I don't ask visitors to remove their shoes. However, I appreciate it if they do so.
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Rachel0610
by Rachel on Jan. 15, 2013 at 12:10 AM

Nope :)

emilyelephant
by Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 1:06 AM

I don't ask, but especially if I take mine off, they usually follow suit.

A friend brought her new boyfriend over once, and it would have been better if he'd kept them on...

Melissa_anne
by Representative on Jan. 15, 2013 at 9:12 PM

i never ask, when i had carpet right by my front door mud would always get tracked in, but now in the new house we have vinyl and it's super easy to clean so i dont care whether they do or not.

addykarder19
by Member on Jan. 15, 2013 at 10:50 PM

same here!! my dad is the worse. he tracks everything in, but he is older and it takes awhile to take his work books on and off

Quoting meam4444:

I don't ask visitors to remove their shoes. However, I appreciate it if they do so.


*Wife to Joel since 10-2-10*
*Mother of Addyson, Karder & Everett *
*Angel Babies 1/19/11 & 4/23/11*

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