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What Would You Miss if You Were Temporarily Separated From Your Kids?

Posted by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM
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Mom Confession: I Left My Kids for 2 Months

Posted by Jenny Erikson


I mean really ... how could I not miss them?
Last fall, I was offered a fantastic opportunity for a job. I was all set to take it, until I found out that they didn’t want me to work remotely for the two-month stint -- they wanted me on site in Boston.

I tossed the idea out the window, because Boston is 3,000ish miles away from my San Diego home, and that’s one heck of a commute. Then the planets aligned, my husband told me he could hold down the fort, and my mom said she’d take care of the kids after school. Three days later, I was kissing my babies goodbye and flying across the country.

I knew I’d miss my kids like crazy, but there were some things that I did not expect to miss about them. I mean, no one likes wiping noses, right? Then I’d find myself turning a corner or waking up in the middle of the night, and I’d be hit with a whole lot of I miss them so much right now!

These are the things that I did not expect to miss about my daughters but did anyway.

Middle of the Night Snuggles -- I don’t know exactly when it started or how it happened, but for the past year or two, our four-year-old daughter will more often than not wake up in the wee hours and tear down the hallway and leap into bed with us until morning. We’ve never been a co-sleeping family, and honestly, I kind of like my space when I sleep, so I was surprised to wake up lonely in Boston without her snuggly little body next to mine.

Cartoons -- I have no idea what’s going on with Phineas and Ferb, and that’s tragic. I guess I just don’t think to turn on something animated without the wee ones begging me to.

The Park -- Confession: Normally I hate the park. It’s germy, they want you to play with them, and if you don’t play with them you’re forced to make small talk with the other parents who you’re inevitably going to end up not liking anyway, and the whole thing only ends when someone falls and hurts themselves. Total nightmare. But I found myself walking past the neighborhood parks a little slower in Boston … Not a lot of things beat the joy of a kid on a swing.

Homework -- Haha. Just kidding. I didn’t miss that at all.

You know what I did miss though? The wonder and excitement evident in my children when they learn something new or understand the world around them a little bit better. And the satisfaction of victory that trumps the frustration of teaching that comes along when something finally clicks into place for them.

I knew I’d miss the hugs and kisses, and the love that my children show me every day -- what I didn’t expect was to miss just being a mom.

Overall, it was a great opportunity and I’m glad I did it. I’m incredibly grateful to my amazing family and friends that made it possible for me to go. I love you guys so much -- and now I love my girls more than ever.

What ordinary things do you think you’d miss most if you were temporarily separated from your kids?

by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:47 AM
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meam4444
by Representative on Jan. 16, 2013 at 12:38 PM
Id miss their smiles
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Bawyada
by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 1:38 PM

There is a lot I would miss.  But one funny story, I went to London for 11 nights a few years ago over mothers day.  My husband surprised me with a locket hidden in my suitcase, the funny thing is, he put pics of my two kids in it that were of them throwing fits.  We would take a pic here and there of the occasional temper tantrum to show them later.  He said so I would also remember the not so fun parts of my kids I was missing,  It was funny and helped a lot.  Maybe when going away you should pack some of those reminders to help you through the rough spots.  Also, nighttime is always the worse! 

Ferrari
by Felicia on Jan. 17, 2013 at 2:45 PM
Everything! My youngest is actually in another state visiting her great grandma, grammy, and papa. She's been gone a week tomorrow and will be there another week. I miss the usual things like her laugh and smile. I miss hearing "mommy, I need you". I even miss watching Strawberry Shortcake a million times in a day. Luckily, I do have my 2 boys home with me, so they help distract me, but it gets awfully quiet when they are at school.
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mestiza_07
by New Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 10:02 AM
I will be away from my kids for 5 days in May. I'm def gonna miss there hugs and kisses!
Melissa_anne
by Representative on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:32 PM

everything but the whining.  I would miss the hugs, the kisses, her voice, her attitude (because most of the time it's funny and i make fun of her), snuggling.  I couldn't do it for 2 months.  i am weepy when i am gone for 3 days for training for work.

lildjc84
by Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 10:11 PM

It isn't as bad now that he is almost 18, but when he goes to his dad's in the summer for a week or 2, I miss him a great deal. I guess I wouldn't do anything different.

celestegood
by Representative on Jan. 20, 2013 at 11:31 PM
Their hugs and kisses, cuddles.
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meam4444
by Representative on Jan. 21, 2013 at 2:09 PM

 Hehe...too cute with the photos!  I always bring a few of those on my phone when I take a trip...then of course, the peaceful and cute ones to remember them

Quoting Bawyada:

There is a lot I would miss.  But one funny story, I went to London for 11 nights a few years ago over mothers day.  My husband surprised me with a locket hidden in my suitcase, the funny thing is, he put pics of my two kids in it that were of them throwing fits.  We would take a pic here and there of the occasional temper tantrum to show them later.  He said so I would also remember the not so fun parts of my kids I was missing,  It was funny and helped a lot.  Maybe when going away you should pack some of those reminders to help you through the rough spots.  Also, nighttime is always the worse! 

 

easinpc
by Emily on Jan. 22, 2013 at 4:26 PM

Sadly I'm away from my son at least 2 nights each week and sometimes 4-5 days depending on if its his dads weekend or not.  There are a lot of things that I miss while he's gone, but mainly its his goofy grin that he gives me all the time.  That or the 2 am wake up when he feels the need to stop in my room and say hi after he goes to the bathroom lol. 

easinpc
by Emily on Jan. 22, 2013 at 4:26 PM

 Thats a great idea!!


Quoting Bawyada:

There is a lot I would miss.  But one funny story, I went to London for 11 nights a few years ago over mothers day.  My husband surprised me with a locket hidden in my suitcase, the funny thing is, he put pics of my two kids in it that were of them throwing fits.  We would take a pic here and there of the occasional temper tantrum to show them later.  He said so I would also remember the not so fun parts of my kids I was missing,  It was funny and helped a lot.  Maybe when going away you should pack some of those reminders to help you through the rough spots.  Also, nighttime is always the worse! 


 

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