*update: I went to visit my grandma 2 weeks ago and I was talking to her about the wedding and that it would be nice if we had someone to help her and that my aunt k would be willing to split the bill with us. Well as I was saying this 2 of her nurses at the nursing home walked and the one said if she wasn't working that weekend then she would be willing to come help us. I'm happy we finally found someone. My grandma is ok with her doing it. Then we went to my uncle's and my aunt j said she cousin would be willing to come help C( the nurse) if she needed it. Her cousin used to work with C at the nursing home.
So it looks as if we have 2 nurses to help my grandma for our wedding! I'm so happy that my mom can relax and enjoy our day