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Posted by on Feb. 11, 2013 at 11:19 AM
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 This has NOTHING to do with anyone in here!!!!

I posted in my church group yesterday asking people to CALL and check on my husband while we are gone.  I didnt ask them to bring him anything or to do anything other then Call.  Not so hard I would do it in a heart beat. 

Anyway I had 1 lady inparticular try to tell me that I CAN have his meds before we go because she did.  YES if it was a different kind of Medicine then we could get it early and maybe even fill it in LA.  BUT it is a highly controlled medicine.  He is taking Methidone.  It a very strong narcotic they give to Meth addicts and it will catch a good price on the black market.  He needs it for his Pain. Its the only thing that gets him through the day from the pain of his leg.   I dont understand why people dont think before they speak.  We have tried to think of EVERYTHING to see if he can go.  I dont want to leave him here and he dosnt want to stay.  If he went he would be miserable and make the rest of us miserable.  He cant even stand when he dosnt have his meds and is in bed all day.  We dont want that.  But why would anyone think that we didnt try?  I understand no one knows the extent of his pain and how controlled the meds are.  But dont sit there and act like I didnt think of everything.  UGH it just annoys me!!!!  OK Vent over!!!  Again nothing against any of you in here.  You were all understanding and didnt make it seem like Im stupid and didnt try to come up with a solution.  Thanks for letting me vent.  I can now get on with my day.  LOL  HUGS you ladies are great!!!

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Cafe MichelleP
by Head Admin on Feb. 11, 2013 at 2:07 PM

Feel free to vent.

As far as other people go, just let it roll off your back. You know you have exhausted every avenue, don't let others bring you down.  :)

Ambear72
by Amber on Feb. 11, 2013 at 4:27 PM
Thanks, I know, I feel better after I vented.

Quoting Cafe MichelleP:

Feel free to vent.

As far as other people go, just let it roll off your back. You know you have exhausted every avenue, don't let others bring you down.  :)

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JulieJacobKyle
by on Feb. 11, 2013 at 5:42 PM

I'm sorry, people can be total jerks, especially when they think they know everything.  You know what you have tried to get him to be able to go.  I hope you don't mind my asking, but what happened to his leg?

Ambear72
by Amber on Feb. 11, 2013 at 7:26 PM

 I dont mind you asking at all,

In Dec of 2000 he was in a really bad car accident.  He actually should have died.  He severed his aorta and crushed his right ankle.  The bones in his ankle were just about all powder.  He has gone through 2 ankle fusions, to see if that would help with the pain.  It has only caused him more pain.  He is going to get it amputated now.  He had screws almost poking out of the skin.  He has a metal rod going from the bottom of his foot up the inside of his bone.  He has arthritis really bad  in the toes.  He has taken so much pain meds for the last 12 years he has built up a really good tolerence to them.  So he is now on Methadone.

Quoting JulieJacobKyle:

I'm sorry, people can be total jerks, especially when they think they know everything.  You know what you have tried to get him to be able to go.  I hope you don't mind my asking, but what happened to his leg?

 

JulieJacobKyle
by on Feb. 11, 2013 at 7:40 PM

How awful.  I can't imagine going through all that pain and everything for 12 years!  The poor guy.  

Quoting Ambear72:

 I dont mind you asking at all,

In Dec of 2000 he was in a really bad car accident.  He actually should have died.  He severed his aorta and crushed his right ankle.  The bones in his ankle were just about all powder.  He has gone through 2 ankle fusions, to see if that would help with the pain.  It has only caused him more pain.  He is going to get it amputated now.  He had screws almost poking out of the skin.  He has a metal rod going from the bottom of his foot up the inside of his bone.  He has arthritis really bad  in the toes.  He has taken so much pain meds for the last 12 years he has built up a really good tolerence to them.  So he is now on Methadone.

Quoting JulieJacobKyle:

I'm sorry, people can be total jerks, especially when they think they know everything.  You know what you have tried to get him to be able to go.  I hope you don't mind my asking, but what happened to his leg?

 


Ambear72
by Amber on Feb. 12, 2013 at 12:31 AM

 Yea its been really hard on him.  He now also has epilepsi.  He finally got on SSD and has medicare, so he is going to get his leg amputated probably this summer sometime. 

Quoting JulieJacobKyle:

How awful.  I can't imagine going through all that pain and everything for 12 years!  The poor guy.  

Quoting Ambear72:

 I dont mind you asking at all,

In Dec of 2000 he was in a really bad car accident.  He actually should have died.  He severed his aorta and crushed his right ankle.  The bones in his ankle were just about all powder.  He has gone through 2 ankle fusions, to see if that would help with the pain.  It has only caused him more pain.  He is going to get it amputated now.  He had screws almost poking out of the skin.  He has a metal rod going from the bottom of his foot up the inside of his bone.  He has arthritis really bad  in the toes.  He has taken so much pain meds for the last 12 years he has built up a really good tolerence to them.  So he is now on Methadone.

Quoting JulieJacobKyle:

I'm sorry, people can be total jerks, especially when they think they know everything.  You know what you have tried to get him to be able to go.  I hope you don't mind my asking, but what happened to his leg?

 


 

DixieL
by Dixie on Feb. 12, 2013 at 5:55 AM

Amber I understand. That's why I take hydrchodone. I can't do anything without it either. I have a hard time doing a lot with it even. I used to be able to keep my house clean, wash clothes and fix dinner. Now my husband has to help a lot with it. I know you said it wasn't anyone in here, but I know I was trying to think of ways that he could go. I also know how they are with controlled drugs. Mine is even as strong as he has to take. I wish he could get them and go with you, but I understand why he can't go without them. I'm very sorry for what he is going through. I'm very sorry for what you all are going through. Your family will be in my thoughts. If their is anyone on here who lives around you, maybe they can call and see how he is doing. I think you said, that you don't live in Vegas or I would see how he is doing for you. I hope you have as good a time as you can without him getting to go.

DixieL
by Dixie on Feb. 12, 2013 at 5:59 AM



Quoting Ambear72:

 This has NOTHING to do with anyone in here!!!!

I posted in my church group yesterday asking people to CALL and check on my husband while we are gone.  I didnt ask them to bring him anything or to do anything other then Call.  Not so hard I would do it in a heart beat. 

Anyway I had 1 lady inparticular try to tell me that I CAN have his meds before we go because she did.  YES if it was a different kind of Medicine then we could get it early and maybe even fill it in LA.  BUT it is a highly controlled medicine.  He is taking Methidone.  It a very strong narcotic they give to Meth addicts and it will catch a good price on the black market.  He needs it for his Pain. Its the only thing that gets him through the day from the pain of his leg.   I dont understand why people dont think before they speak.  We have tried to think of EVERYTHING to see if he can go.  I dont want to leave him here and he dosnt want to stay.  If he went he would be miserable and make the rest of us miserable.  He cant even stand when he dosnt have his meds and is in bed all day.  We dont want that.  But why would anyone think that we didnt try?  I understand no one knows the extent of his pain and how controlled the meds are.  But dont sit there and act like I didnt think of everything.  UGH it just annoys me!!!!  OK Vent over!!!  Again nothing against any of you in here.  You were all understanding and didnt make it seem like Im stupid and didnt try to come up with a solution.  Thanks for letting me vent.  I can now get on with my day.  LOL  HUGS you ladies are great!!!

I just read what is wrong. I'm so sorry, that he has had to go through all of that and is in that much pain. Sometimes when I'm feeling sorry for myself I don't realize how much worse some people have it than I do. I'm so sorry. When does he have to go back in the hospital? Let us know so we can throw our prayers to him.


Ambear72
by Amber on Feb. 12, 2013 at 10:19 AM
Thanks Dixie, I knew you were trying to help. That's why I said it wasn't anyone in here. Thank you for your kind words. It has been a long hard road. My family has been through a lot. But he now has insurance and we are going to get things taken care of. Through it all though he has been an amazing father and for the most part a terrific husband. I could go on and tell you all the meds he has been on and what it has done to him and the family, but that's the past. When he gets his leg amputated we will be able to do so much more as a family. My new goal is to get us all to Disney World!

Oh and thanks for the offer to check up on him. I have that taken care of. I have someone who is going to do it.


Quoting DixieL:

Amber I understand. That's why I take hydrchodone. I can't do anything without it either. I have a hard time doing a lot with it even. I used to be able to keep my house clean, wash clothes and fix dinner. Now my husband has to help a lot with it. I know you said it wasn't anyone in here, but I know I was trying to think of ways that he could go. I also know how they are with controlled drugs. Mine is even as strong as he has to take. I wish he could get them and go with you, but I understand why he can't go without them. I'm very sorry for what he is going through. I'm very sorry for what you all are going through. Your family will be in my thoughts. If their is anyone on here who lives around you, maybe they can call and see how he is doing. I think you said, that you don't live in Vegas or I would see how he is doing for you. I hope you have as good a time as you can without him getting to go.

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Ambear72
by Amber on Feb. 12, 2013 at 10:31 AM
That's just the tip of the ice burg, he was in another accident and broke his good leg tore his ACL and his menuscus so he now has problems with his left leg. That's gonna get fixed too. He has had a few surgeries due to infection and staph. He is depressed and is on mess for that, but I always tell him there are worse people off. He has a good caring family , a roof over his head, and he survived a severed aorta. If I told you our history your head would spin LOL! But it's all getting fixed and things are looking up. I'm sorry you have and are suffering through all you have going in. I try to get my family to focus on the positive and what we have. And what we have over come to get it all.

Quoting DixieL:




Quoting Ambear72:

 This has NOTHING to do with anyone in here!!!!


I posted in my church group yesterday asking people to CALL and check on my husband while we are gone.  I didnt ask them to bring him anything or to do anything other then Call.  Not so hard I would do it in a heart beat. 


Anyway I had 1 lady inparticular try to tell me that I CAN have his meds before we go because she did.  YES if it was a different kind of Medicine then we could get it early and maybe even fill it in LA.  BUT it is a highly controlled medicine.  He is taking Methidone.  It a very strong narcotic they give to Meth addicts and it will catch a good price on the black market.  He needs it for his Pain. Its the only thing that gets him through the day from the pain of his leg.   I dont understand why people dont think before they speak.  We have tried to think of EVERYTHING to see if he can go.  I dont want to leave him here and he dosnt want to stay.  If he went he would be miserable and make the rest of us miserable.  He cant even stand when he dosnt have his meds and is in bed all day.  We dont want that.  But why would anyone think that we didnt try?  I understand no one knows the extent of his pain and how controlled the meds are.  But dont sit there and act like I didnt think of everything.  UGH it just annoys me!!!!  OK Vent over!!!  Again nothing against any of you in here.  You were all understanding and didnt make it seem like Im stupid and didnt try to come up with a solution.  Thanks for letting me vent.  I can now get on with my day.  LOL  HUGS you ladies are great!!!

I just read what is wrong. I'm so sorry, that he has had to go through all of that and is in that much pain. Sometimes when I'm feeling sorry for myself I don't realize how much worse some people have it than I do. I'm so sorry. When does he have to go back in the hospital? Let us know so we can throw our prayers to him.



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