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Posted by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:17 AM
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it seems based on evidence from what other children and parents have reported there is an active sexual predator at work where Jessica was taken.  God that is terrifying. 

Have you talked to your kids about this, or have they asked?  Have you changed anything, like can they walk to school or a friend's house alone? 

It's SO disturbing that the body found isn't even intact enouugh to identify, and heartbreaking.  God I'm heartbroken for Jessica's family and how scared must that whole community feel? 

How do you talk to your kids about safety without scaring the crap out of them?  My kids are teens, and while we still have talks about safety, they are generaly focused on other things (peers, date raape, drugs, drinking etc).  I know when they were little, that was very hard to talk about how to stay safe without making them feel the bad guys were everywhere.  Mainly I told them that adults don't ask kids for help, if they can find a woman, ask her for help and no matter what the threat, scream, make noise and if the worst case scenario happens, it's better to cause a car accident than get driven off to god knows where if they can.

what are you telling your kids, if anything?


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littlemascara
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:17 AM

from 9news


WESTMINSTER - As the search for evidence in the Jessica Ridgeway investigation continues, the search for a suspect is intensifying.

The FBI has 50 agents working the Ridgeway investigation and they are asking the public to help them catch whoever is responsible.

Officers spent most of the day at the Pattridge open space and reopened the Leyden Road to traffic Thursday evening.

The person chose an isolated area, crossed under the barbed wire fence at a drainage culvert, and left the body on a hillside. It's still not confirmed if the body is Jessica's.

The FBI knows from experience, the best leads will likely come from people at home who have a hunch and make the call.

"We suspect that somebody in the community knows this individual," Denver FBI spokesman Dave Joly said.

Joly says you need to focus, not on how this person looks, but how they act.

"Any kind if unusual behavior between last Friday and today," Joly said.

That behavior could include missing work and appointments, leaving town, changes in alcohol and drug use, or even changes in appearance.

"Somebody who is very engaged in the media coverage of the investigation and maybe they're a little annoyed by all the coverage," Joly said.

Former FBI profiler Clint Van Zandt says the condition of the body, which was described by Westminster police spokesman Trevor Materasso as "not intact," indicates an experienced killer.

"And if it is such a person who would do such a grisly act, it is someone who is fully capable of doing this again. And not withstanding investigators are racing against the clock to try to find the offender, before he or she might strike again," Van Zandt said.

The FBI assumes the person they're looking for is a male, as statistics show that is most likely the case.

"It could be your boss; it could be your friend, and ultimately it could be your family member," Van Zandt said.

Investigators have received more than 1,200 tips so far.

If you suspect anything, no matter how insignificant you think it may be, the FBI wants you to call 303-658-4336.

(KUSA-TV © 2012 Multimedia Holdings Corporation)

Bradensmommy719
by Anji on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:59 AM
I am lucky cuz bean is still little he doesn't know.what's going on. He does know he is not supposed to talk to strangers unless mom and dad are around. He is not allowed outside alone and when it is dark he holds a hand. Plus we will let hunny explain just about everything cuz he has a no sugar coating it way to say things so bean understands.
It was heart wrenching to hear the body was so bad they can't tell if it is an adult or child. :-(
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Babybear89
by Gracey on Oct. 12, 2012 at 9:30 AM

dd is still too young to talk to about this,

Greekmama21
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:04 AM
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We talk about sexual predators, that nobody is allowed to touch her vagina and she's not allowed to touch someones vagina or penis. If someone lies and tells her she will get in trouble, they are lying and they will get in trouble because they are a big person doing a bad thing to a little kid. We tell her never to get into a car with strangers and to yell, "fire" because adults are more likely to listen to that compared to help and if someone grabs her, scream, kick, bite, hit, etc. 

Fortunately for her, she's really never out of my eye sight. Unfortunately for her she's still so small where an adult could easily overpower her. 

HKing01
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:04 AM
My oldest is only 6 and he doesn't know of this particular case. He does know that there are bad people that will kidnap and harm children out there but we haven't gone into to many details yet. I wouldn't let any of my kids walk to school alone until they're old enough to handle themselves. In fact they're home schooled. Thankfully I live in the middle of nowhere. I do admit I'm a bit on the overprotective side and don't want them out of my sight. These cases in the news always depress me.
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ladyraven16
by Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 11:46 AM
My 5&3yr old know about this because we are also in jeffco. We've had talks about it. I also have been keeping them by my side everywhere we go.
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nacholibre
by Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 12:43 PM

I am the same way, and I will be homeschooling as well!! I have moments where I'm harsh on myself for being "clingy" with DD... but then I realize that my behavior not only keeps her safer, but it's obvious to strangers that I'm watching her very closely.

Quoting HKing01:

My oldest is only 6 and he doesn't know of this particular case. He does know that there are bad people that will kidnap and harm children out there but we haven't gone into to many details yet. I wouldn't let any of my kids walk to school alone until they're old enough to handle themselves. In fact they're home schooled. Thankfully I live in the middle of nowhere. I do admit I'm a bit on the overprotective side and don't want them out of my sight. These cases in the news always depress me.

DD is soon to be 4, and she has a hard time grasping certain concepts, I'm sure stranger danger is one of them. The girl talks to EVERYONE, and what worries me is she says things like "Hi! Come with me! Come play with me!" to everyone from the maintenance guys to people we pass in the store. It worries me sometimes b/c she'll talk to someone who I then notice eying us BOTH... buddy you do not want to take me on lol! But still, just kinda freaky.

Virgo.Mama
by Brittney on Oct. 12, 2012 at 1:11 PM

I am thankful that ds is 10 months old and we haven't had to get into this yet because I sure am not looking forward to it. We had a town meeting last night that a violent sexual predator was moving into the area :(

IntactivistMama
by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 1:13 PM

I talked to my stepson about this.

Told him it's better to be rude than have something bad happen (ie: people in cars trying to get him to come close etc.) 

I also told him to scream FIRE instead of HELP if something happens. People ignore "help" most of the time. I remember a young woman years ago where I used to live being assaulted (and then murdered) screaming help etc...people heard the screams and ignored them. :(

rocky_mtn_mama
by Amy on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:17 PM

My daughter is old enough to know what's going on (15), she's been watching the news reports and heard what the family had to say earlier in the week.  My 11 year old is more oblivious to what's going on. 

I'm surprised though when I take my kids to school or pick them up at how many young children are still walking to school, some alone.  I know we can't let the predators win, and maybe I'm just an over protective mom, but right now I wouldn't feel comfortable letting my young child walk to school alone.

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