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Stats on bed sharing.

Posted by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 6:03 PM
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About 65 deaths every year from bed sharing. A majority are formula fed or are not sleeping in a bed (they are on a chair or on a couch). Over 3,000 (that is a more recent number since the Back to Sleep Campaign), die each year alone in their crib. The second link is from Dr. James McKenna, an anthropologist from Notre Dame. The third link is just an interesting study. The fourth link is the break down on what lead to the death of the child with a shared sleeping surface (this is from the orgnanization that Dr. Sears pulled his numbers from for the first article). 

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/sids-latest-research-how-sleeping-your-baby-safe

http://www.naturalchild.org/james_mckenna/cosleeping.pdf

http://www.pediatricsdigest.mobi/content/100/5/841.full

http://www.cpsc.gov/cpscpub/prerel/prhtml99/99175.html

How to bed share safely....

http://cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines/

http://safebedsharing.org/safetyguidelines.html

http://cosleeping.nd.edu/frequently-asked-questions/

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Emilytrademark
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:12 AM
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We bed-shared with our daughter and will do it again with our next. We got so many strange looks and tsk-tsks from people we have told. Isn't it crazy? Where do people get the idea that separating mothers and their newborns is normal, natural and safe? We bed-shared safely. I was always so concerned about smothering her or her stopping breathing,  and awakened frequently during the night to make sure she was still breathing. We also used an in-bed co-sleeper until she outgrew it, then just used a firm mattress with no or few pillows around. We took the bed frame off of our bed so that it was closer to the ground. DD did roll off the bed 2-3 times during that first year, despite our best attempts to prevent that. Thankfully, we lined the outside of the bed with pillows. We never fell asleep with her on the couch.

Upon conducting my research regarding bed-sharing safety, I strongly believe that bed-sharing reduces the risk of SIDS, which may have been my primary motivator. Babies correspond to maternal breathing, and the mother's body somehow reminds the baby's body to keep breathing (aren't our bodies amazing?) I also breastfed exclusively and I am not sure how I could have done that if my daughter and I were in separate rooms. I remember many times that she would latch on and I would fall back asleep- I am sure I got more sleep that way than I would have if I had to literally get out of bed and go into another room everytime Sophie cried out. She is almost 2 years old now, and while we put her to sleep in her own crib, many nights she comes into our room and crawls into bed with us. That is perfectly fine by me!

Also, I am not sure I could have slept knowing that my baby was in another room, alone, separated from me. To this day, I am not sure how people can separate themselves from their newborns in such a manner, but I understand that is the Western tradition. Well, that's just my two cents!

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Precious333
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 11:13 AM
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we bedshare as well. I have a book called "three in a bed" LOVE it!

MomTimSaria
by on Jan. 27, 2013 at 6:03 PM
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I shared a bed with my son until he was three.  And I currently share the bed now with my one year old.  I am 29 weeks pregnant now and I plan on sharing the bed with that baby as well.  But I want my one year old in her own bed for safety reasons so we have two months to get her in her own bed.

louzannalady
by Group Owner on Jan. 27, 2013 at 6:11 PM

Our two oldest are three days short of 18 months apart. And our oldest still will come to bed with us, sometimes and he snuggles with us to go to sleep at night. Then, we move him to his bed. So, we have the youngest to my right, me, DS1, and then DH. He is two and a lot more mobile and noisy, so I feel he's fine between us. DS2 is never between us, because he is so young (six months). 

Quoting MomTimSaria:

I shared a bed with my son until he was three.  And I currently share the bed now with my one year old.  I am 29 weeks pregnant now and I plan on sharing the bed with that baby as well.  But I want my one year old in her own bed for safety reasons so we have two months to get her in her own bed.


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