Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Dressing for the Occasion

Posted by   + Show Post

There are some children who love to dress up. Given the opportunity, you will find that kid wearing a bow tie and suspenders to the grocery, or a tutu at the park. There are other kids, though, who you have to force into a clean pair of pants and a nice sweater in order to go visit Grandma. Every kid is different, that's for sure. 

How can you find that comfortable middle ground when it comes to the concept of dressing up?

Don't make it a battle. If your children are anything like mine, the moment that they know we are arguing, it becomes a life or death struggle that they simply must win, no matter what. The minute that I declare that a particular outfit simply must be worn - well, I know that there's absolutely zero chance of it happening.

Instead, work on a compromise that you may need before it becomes necessary. When you change clothes over for the new season, take the opportunity to put together a few acceptable outfits and share them with your child.

What if your child refuses to dress up? Talk it over, try to find an area of compromise, and realize that you may just have to set an edict - your son can wear jeans whenever he wants, but it's non negotiable to wear dress pants to church, for example. Try to save the absolutes for times that truly need them - the fewer times you force them to dress up, the more important those times are.

Take your child's comfort into consideration. I have a child who is a high functioning autistic, and she is very overly sensitive to many articles of clothing. No matter how adorable that red and white striped turtleneck is, there's absolutely no way that I will ever be able to get her to wear it. Same thing with tights. Instead, we look for a nice pair of seamless cotton leggings that will work with her dresses, and wash everything several times with sensitive detergent.  

What if your child loves to "dress fancy", and you'd like him to relax once in a while? Well, that an be more difficult that getting a child to dress up. I know that I've had to just go with it sometimes, and be that mom in the grocery store with a daughter wearing a tiara and tutu. Luckily, being overly dressed up doesn't hurt anyone, and most parents have been there at least once in their parenting career and understand what you are going through.

How do you compormise when it comes to dressing up? Are your children more apt to be overly dressed up or more casual?


by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 9:20 AM
Replies (21-30):
by Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:47 AM

My kids don't seem to mind, though we don't have a lot of 'dress-up' occasions.

by Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:52 AM

My kids dont mind dressing up. 

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:03 PM

my son doesn't like to dress up. I think dd might like to but she's only 11 months so she doesn't care right now.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:08 PM

DD is more casual. I know I will have to fight for the tights for her holiday party tomorrow :/

by Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 12:23 PM

I would say we dress, dressy  casual. Nice, but comfy.

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 3:46 PM
I let my dd help shop, but we do but heads sometimes.
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 11:18 PM

DD does her own thing.  When she has to dress up for real I will help her pick out stuff.

by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 9:36 AM
My dd is two and loves dresses so shes no trouble, and my ds is almost five months so he wears whatever i put him in :)
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 12:09 PM

I don';t make them dress up to much. My daughters like to wear dresses. My son a collared shirt or button down shirt

by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 3:45 PM

 we no longer attempt to battle our 16 yr old DD to 'dress up'. I've learned i love her the way she is, and as long as she is covered enough and doesnt get the flu from puddle jumping when it's 50F out, i dont care.

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN