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Whether we think too much or too little of ourselves, we seem to live in a society full of the image obsessed.




Beauty and Weight Loss Specialist, Alicia Hunter, joins the Mad Life panel for this  ego-boosting conversation.

Why are we so vain?

by on Dec. 26, 2012 at 3:47 PM
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Albond86
by Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 9:32 AM
And has also warped our perception. It's human nature to want to fit in with the clan!
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4kidz916
by Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 9:39 AM

I agree with Chuck in thinking that technology has made the world more vain.  That's why as parents, we must put our kids in check and make sure they realize looks aren't everything.

GypsiSky
by Silver Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 9:48 AM
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I believe strongly in self~confidence and not needing outside validation for self worth.

jessicasmom1
by Silver Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 9:51 AM

oh I am not vain like that!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GwenMB
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 10:30 AM
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Vanity is a sin that's been with us since the beginning of time.  Yes, the media does make it worse, but people have been vain long before there was a media to help that along.  I think media just feeds off what people want to see or be - or what the people involved in media think people want to see or be or feel.

Madelaine
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 10:36 AM

Agreed!

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Because insecurities sell. "Create a need and fill it" is pretty much the mantra of marketing. Once you realize how nonsensical that is, it doesn't affect you. It's an issue of self-esteem. And that's why the CM poll results don't surprise me at all.

Andrew brought up a great point, though. You can't "feel important" just because "somebody needs you." That's just sacrificing self-esteem to self-denial.


MichelleK41
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 11:30 AM
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I agree media sells the heck out of pretty. Look at the glamorous Real Housewives shows, now seriously, we all know how well real life struggling moms would sell much better but the media wants pretty. For me the real housewives shows are about laughter and watching drama when bored, it gives me nothing in the area of what I or my friends really go through as Moms.

arpazia
by Silver Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 12:17 PM
Uh... Because...uh..well... You see... Uhm.. I..was.
Clearly I haven't the foggiest
mmtosam06
by Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 1:06 PM

this right here

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Because insecurities sell. "Create a need and fill it" is pretty much the mantra of marketing. Once you realize how nonsensical that is, it doesn't affect you. It's an issue of self-esteem. And that's why the CM poll results don't surprise me at all.

Andrew brought up a great point, though. You can't "feel important" just because "somebody needs you." That's just sacrificing self-esteem to self-denial.


Stephanie nice to meet you.
Babujai
by Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 1:24 PM
It's easier to focus on surface issues than the deeper character attributes that we should actually take pride in.
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