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Whether we think too much or too little of ourselves, we seem to live in a society full of the image obsessed.




Beauty and Weight Loss Specialist, Alicia Hunter, joins the Mad Life panel for this  ego-boosting conversation.

Why are we so vain?

by on Dec. 26, 2012 at 3:47 PM
Replies (21-30):
MrsRobinson06
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 2:55 PM

 Because we see someone else that has something we want and we strive to improve ourselves to have whatever it is we longed for. Its like a competition almost.

butterflycircle
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 3:08 PM

My MIL and the whole family is far more worried about looks and apperances. I hate it. I like to look nice too but I don't worry about it like they do. My husbad has argued with me over our sons gloves. They are blue and have grips on them that look like a monster. He says that the grips go on the top of the hand (not the side you grab with). I told him no, they are grips so he can grab things. He said we should (and his mom would) still put them on the top b/c it looks better. Silly. Looks aren't that important. the other day he was uphappy b/c I let the kids color with markers before going to his parents house. He said it looks like we are bad parents b/c our toddlers hands had marker on them. I asked what makes us bad parents? That we let our kids have fun and be creative? It is not like there was marker all over his face and stuff just some that didn't wash off of his hand well, he was in no way "dirty".

sukainah
by Gold Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 3:18 PM

I think this is a good answer.

Quoting BabyTeki:

Because with our high level of technology anymore, the media is constantly right in our face.


sukainah
by Gold Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 3:19 PM

Honestly I try to avoid the camera and post mostly pictures of my kiddos on my FB page.  I don't really like looking at myself in the mirror either.

goddess99
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 4:17 PM

Medias fault.

Ali5683
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 4:53 PM

Media!

mama2gg
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 5:26 PM

 totally don't have this issue lol

jconney80
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 5:31 PM
So true

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

Because insecurities sell. "Create a need and fill it" is pretty much the mantra of marketing. Once you realize how nonsensical that is, it doesn't affect you. It's an issue of self-esteem. And that's why the CM poll results don't surprise me at all.

Andrew brought up a great point, though. You can't "feel important" just because "somebody needs you." That's just sacrificing self-esteem to self-denial.

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samurai_chica
by on Dec. 28, 2012 at 6:49 PM

A few things are at play here...

The main one being our ego.

We think we are separate beings. And we are, but in a sense we are also one. Our ego is the false identity we have of our self. The idea that we are "ME" & "I".

We are grown into adults with each & every one of us carrying insecurities. We feel the need to show the world that "ME" - "I" am the chiz-nitz because in some way, it makes up for those insecurities that we carry into our adulthood. You may want the best car, the nicest house, the coolest friends, the best clothes...the prettiest singing voice...whatever. We all at some point want to show off how awesome we think we are (and some of us are pretty effing cool...so why not?). That's not always a bad thing....it can help create confidence in ourselves, and it can help us to believe positive things about ourselves. Not everyone is super vain...some people are more humble. And humble people often get mistook for being pushovers (sometimes they are just pushovers & not very humble though...lol)

I'm going off here sorry...

The other reason, is that humans ARE JUDGEMENTAL.

No matter how non-judgemental someone claims to be, they are wrong...they judge too. Unless they're Jesus...

Since we all have this sense of "I"...that "I" and it's insecurities can't help but judge others for their differences. We humans know that we all do this...we know we're being judged left & right. And our ego won't allow most of us to not give a flying fuck who is & isn't judging us.

That is why we are vain. Because we care too much of how others percieve us. People who don't give a crap about what others think of them, tend to be a bit less vain. But, there is vanity everywhere...we are all vain in some way, shape, or form....all of us.

I am vain when it comes to my gardening....I boast the shit out of my gardening skills. And yesssss....i definitely think i can grow a better garden than anyone on CM...lol...



copperswifey
by Bronze Member on Dec. 28, 2012 at 7:12 PM

I'm not that vain. I hate my picture taken lol :)  

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