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Where is your biggest privacy issue: online or in the potty?

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We were over at a friend's house, and my mommy bud had just got a new smart phone (her old one had been cracked for a year). The whiz at the store had accidentally linked up her and her hubby's text messages (they had a family plan, but still not sure exactly how the dude did this). So, her husband was trying to separate the accounts, so he wouldn't get all of her texts (many from yours truly). At one point, we all joked about how this would be really bad if either of them were having an affair...we laughed, knowing it wasn't true...but it brought to the table the whole issue of privacy and spouses.

There are soooooo many ways we are separate, my husband and me -- separate email accounts, Facebook, twitter, texts, cell phones...we really lead separate "technological lives." And you can have a plethora of all of these things like Chuck said...which means many opportunities to hide (and snoop) and lines where privacy can be crossed. When is it "okay" to be private and when do you share?

I mean, is there is an unwritten rule that you could look at your spouse's email or texts...but you don't out of that huge thing called trust? I think that is the way my husband and I work through it. We could if we wanted to, but don't, as we trust each other and do not feel the need to pry. That's how we kind of steer the privacy boat in our abode. I admit, though,I have looked at my husband's email (the horror!) -- because it was left open, and I had to send pictures of the kiddo from his computer to mine. But I've never checked his phone even though I know I could if I wanted to...

Yet I have walked in on him going to the bathroom. Many times, more than I could count.Ah, the bathroom. An arena where my family has no "walls" as Dr. Ian put it. Do you do "your business" (poop? wax? floss? pluck?) in front of your spouse or do you keep the door shut? 

Soooooo many different privacy issues...what privacy issues do you and your spouse deal with? Email? Phones? Bathroom? 

© benoitb

by on Jan. 10, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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by Silver Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 3:23 PM

DH and I don't have anything to hide. He is free to read my email if he wants. His, quite frankly, are terribly boring! LOL

But I prefer to be alone in the bathroom and I'd rather not see him doing his thing either. ;)

by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 5:10 PM

We don't really have that issue 

by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 12:06 AM

My spouse and I have great boundaries so we dont have privacy issues. However...potty time is a privacy issue with DS. LOL

by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 12:36 PM

Quoting goddess99:

Ahh I guess we don't have an privacy issues. I also lock the bathroom door when I'm in there. That's my me time lol.

Our lock broke!

by Bronze Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 4:08 PM


by Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:09 PM
My biggest issue is the potty. The only time I'm in there alone is when the kids aren't home or if they are sleep
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by Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:10 PM
Very lucky

Quoting hugss:

Pretty lucky here,
No real issues at all :)

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by Platinum Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 8:14 PM

We know but it helps our kids are older too :)

Quoting tayanddyl:

Very lucky

Quoting hugss:

Pretty lucky here,
No real issues at all :)

by Bronze Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:10 PM

Agree lol

Quoting kellynh:

Bathroom, if the door is closed... Don't open it!! 

by Bronze Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:45 PM
We have separate accounts that we could check but we don't. Bathroom is a different thing altogether. We are never in the bathroom together. It is complete privacy in there
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