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How's your patience level?

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Standing in line at the grocery store that has only two checkout aisles open. Sitting in crazy traffic that you didn't expect to deal with. Waiting in the doctor's office thirty minutes past your scheduled time because they are "running behind." We think our kids aren't patient...what about us? How do well you deal in those situations?

I'll go first. When I'm rested and not in a huge hurry and not stressed, then I'm a Perfectly Patient Paula - if 1 is calm as a cucumber and 10 is full-on freak out, I'm a 2. But, when am I ever rested, not in a hurry and not stressed? Exactly. So, yeah, on any given day I could be a 4 or, gulp, an 8. Not good for me, not good to show the kiddo either.

What's a mom to do to be a touch more patient, whether out and about in a situaion...or in the adobe when those kids are pushing your buttons? Talk to yourself. I already do that a lot, but according to Martha Beck, the amazing life coach who has a column that I tear our every month in O, The Oprah Magazine, it is a first step in becoming more patient: "Silently tell yourself simple things like 'It's okay.' 'You're all right.' 'There's no rush.' 'You can do this.' You'll be amazed at the power of this humble mental-management technique to help you turn knowledge into action."

Okay, I've tried it and it works...but what else can you do to knock your score down to a manageable 3 or 4 from that whoppin' 9?

-- Just hit the pause button. Stop what you are doing and thinking and switch to a self-inventory. Are you tense? How are those jaw muscles? Where are your thoughts? Check in with yourself.

-- Take five deep breaths. That whole power of deep breathing has mega calming powers.

-- When not in a tense situation, when you have two seconds, think about times when you've become really impatient. Were you trying to do too many things at one time? Were you late because of some other factors? See if you can switch up those things.

-- Get rest and eat well. Yup, two huge determiners of our patience level: sleep and food. A tired, hungry mama is, more than likely, an impatient one.

How patient are you? Are there times when you are less patient? How about with your kids -- are you really patient or not so much?

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by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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RobynS
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 10:02 AM

I'm fairly patient with my kids, although DD really tests that sometimes! DH is NOT patient at ALL--so seeing his behavior sometimes reminds of how I don't want to be. (isn't that sad?)

MichelleK41
by Bronze Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 10:08 AM

Yeah I'd say we're patient with our kiddos. =)

Now traffic is a whole nother' gray area for me, LOL. Its the cell phone users who either run the lights, drive realllll slow or sit through the green light. Texting and driving really grates my nerves, I have seen what that can do. Oh I could go on and on, LOL.

BabyTeki
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 11:06 AM
Anymore I really struggle with it. I used to be really patient and calm, but now with 2 kids under 3 I feel like I'm constantly stressed and my patience is slim to none
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wandep
by Gold Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 11:07 AM
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LOL same here

Quoting Rushn311:

Hubby says I have none. I think I have a 10%


JennMcBride
by Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 11:45 AM
I'm pretty good I do tend to get annoyed with long lines and when I have to tell my kids and dh the same thing 15 times lol.
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emilyrosenj
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 11:59 AM

I really try to be more patient.  I try to think, maybe that person is having a bad day or maybe it's someone new and they are training.  In other words I try to put myself in their shoes.  It doesn't always work but most of the time it does!

emilyrosenj
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:01 PM

I hear you!

Quoting brownhoney21:

 I have to work on it. I am getting better but I am still working on it.


Margaret


timon95
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:02 PM

it all depends on what is going on. sometimes i can be very patient, other times not so much. i have to have some sort of good level of patience - i homeschool - lol! dh does not have much patience and the kids tend to be a little impatient.

timon95
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:03 PM
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exactly - i am the same - unless it's dh or the kids

Quoting emilyrosenj:

I really try to be more patient.  I try to think, maybe that person is having a bad day or maybe it's someone new and they are training.  In other words I try to put myself in their shoes.  It doesn't always work but most of the time it does!


family car

4kidz916
by Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:12 PM

For the most part I'm a patient person but I do have my off days.  I'm really patient with my kids.

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