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How's your patience level?

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Standing in line at the grocery store that has only two checkout aisles open. Sitting in crazy traffic that you didn't expect to deal with. Waiting in the doctor's office thirty minutes past your scheduled time because they are "running behind." We think our kids aren't patient...what about us? How do well you deal in those situations?

I'll go first. When I'm rested and not in a huge hurry and not stressed, then I'm a Perfectly Patient Paula - if 1 is calm as a cucumber and 10 is full-on freak out, I'm a 2. But, when am I ever rested, not in a hurry and not stressed? Exactly. So, yeah, on any given day I could be a 4 or, gulp, an 8. Not good for me, not good to show the kiddo either.

What's a mom to do to be a touch more patient, whether out and about in a situaion...or in the adobe when those kids are pushing your buttons? Talk to yourself. I already do that a lot, but according to Martha Beck, the amazing life coach who has a column that I tear our every month in O, The Oprah Magazine, it is a first step in becoming more patient: "Silently tell yourself simple things like 'It's okay.' 'You're all right.' 'There's no rush.' 'You can do this.' You'll be amazed at the power of this humble mental-management technique to help you turn knowledge into action."

Okay, I've tried it and it works...but what else can you do to knock your score down to a manageable 3 or 4 from that whoppin' 9?

-- Just hit the pause button. Stop what you are doing and thinking and switch to a self-inventory. Are you tense? How are those jaw muscles? Where are your thoughts? Check in with yourself.

-- Take five deep breaths. That whole power of deep breathing has mega calming powers.

-- When not in a tense situation, when you have two seconds, think about times when you've become really impatient. Were you trying to do too many things at one time? Were you late because of some other factors? See if you can switch up those things.

-- Get rest and eat well. Yup, two huge determiners of our patience level: sleep and food. A tired, hungry mama is, more than likely, an impatient one.

How patient are you? Are there times when you are less patient? How about with your kids -- are you really patient or not so much?

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by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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goddess99
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 1:58 PM

My patience are pretty much long gone. I'm less patient around stupid people or ridiculous situations. My dd can be very patient but usually she's middle of the road.

Juniper53098
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 2:07 PM

I'm patient most of the time, but I do have trouble with patience with my middle son.  I'm working to help him move through his routines more easily, so I don't lose my patience.

abra
by Bronze Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 2:18 PM
I've become a lot more patient since having kids, but there is always room for improvement.
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OMG!!! Jax is gonna go off the deep end!! Even deeper! lol
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by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 2:44 PM
It depends on who, where&what? I tend to let a lot of thing s slide! Stupidity I have 0 patients for! My kids when it comes to mistakes no biggie but when it comes to me talking them over&over again!*sigh*
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Bmat
by Bronze Member on Jan. 23, 2013 at 2:55 PM

I have to remind myself to be patient. with the kids, and with waiting in line.

Bob192
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 12:20 AM

I like to think I'm patient, but my 5 kiddos get me pretty frazled.

Wish2Be
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 12:31 AM

I have a short patience, but I think I reel it in pretty good. At least I hope I do. I tend to take it internally and become a stressed out mess by the end of the day.

Wish2Be
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 12:41 AM


Quoting GwenMB:

Being patient is hard! Esp if I'm not in a good mood to begin with. I need to work on being more patient w my kids,esp the 4 yo. 

Same here !

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Wish2Be
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 12:42 AM


Quoting RobynS:

I'm fairly patient with my kids, although DD really tests that sometimes! DH is NOT patient at ALL--so seeing his behavior sometimes reminds of how I don't want to be. (isn't that sad?)

Not sad at all. I am the exact same way. In fact DH's lack of patience has had soo many embarassing moments. Like he would take me out to dinner and if he is not happy with how quick they bring us our drinks and take our order or check on us...He will speak to the manager or just stand up and leave.

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.Angelica.
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 1:01 AM

most days I am pretty good. days like today I just want to scream and go hide.

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