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How's your patience level?

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Standing in line at the grocery store that has only two checkout aisles open. Sitting in crazy traffic that you didn't expect to deal with. Waiting in the doctor's office thirty minutes past your scheduled time because they are "running behind." We think our kids aren't patient...what about us? How do well you deal in those situations?

I'll go first. When I'm rested and not in a huge hurry and not stressed, then I'm a Perfectly Patient Paula - if 1 is calm as a cucumber and 10 is full-on freak out, I'm a 2. But, when am I ever rested, not in a hurry and not stressed? Exactly. So, yeah, on any given day I could be a 4 or, gulp, an 8. Not good for me, not good to show the kiddo either.

What's a mom to do to be a touch more patient, whether out and about in a situaion...or in the adobe when those kids are pushing your buttons? Talk to yourself. I already do that a lot, but according to Martha Beck, the amazing life coach who has a column that I tear our every month in O, The Oprah Magazine, it is a first step in becoming more patient: "Silently tell yourself simple things like 'It's okay.' 'You're all right.' 'There's no rush.' 'You can do this.' You'll be amazed at the power of this humble mental-management technique to help you turn knowledge into action."

Okay, I've tried it and it works...but what else can you do to knock your score down to a manageable 3 or 4 from that whoppin' 9?

-- Just hit the pause button. Stop what you are doing and thinking and switch to a self-inventory. Are you tense? How are those jaw muscles? Where are your thoughts? Check in with yourself.

-- Take five deep breaths. That whole power of deep breathing has mega calming powers.

-- When not in a tense situation, when you have two seconds, think about times when you've become really impatient. Were you trying to do too many things at one time? Were you late because of some other factors? See if you can switch up those things.

-- Get rest and eat well. Yup, two huge determiners of our patience level: sleep and food. A tired, hungry mama is, more than likely, an impatient one.

How patient are you? Are there times when you are less patient? How about with your kids -- are you really patient or not so much?

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by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Replies (41-50):
heather4511
by Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 7:01 AM
I am the epitome of the tired and hungry mom part. I get four highly interrupted hours of sleep and everyone else always seems to need food or something, I rarely get time to make anything for me. So all in all, I'm highly inpatient, especially with my 5 year old.
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jessicasmom1
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 7:15 AM

Patience I do have it , but now with others in my life I am at a Happy medium ... but someday I get really streesed out.

slw123
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 8:12 AM

There are times when I am more patient than others.  It really depends on what else has happened throughout the day.  I try to always remember to act the way that I would want others to act around me though.

momofsixangels
by Platinum Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 8:22 AM

I have none.Lol. I get aggravated quickly

Leelee1008
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 9:26 AM

it really depends. some days I can take more then others.

elasmimi
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 9:38 AM

I am much more patient now than I was when I started raising kids 48 years ago, lol.

sukainah
by Gold Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:00 AM

Sometimes I can be patient.  But lately I have had a  lot of anxiety and find myself less patient with things, especially the kiddos.   I try all the breathing techniques etc...but sometimes I just can't get that level down.

KaylaMillar
by Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:23 AM
Not near as patient as I should be. I've always struggled with it.
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ceciliam
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 11:25 AM

It depends on the situation. For the most part, I'm fairly patient.

Threes.Company
by Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 12:12 PM
Mine is very closely connected to my monthly cycle, I've noticed. Just before ovulation and just before my period I have pretty much no patience. My patience slowly decreases leading up to those events and slowly increases just after.
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