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Why am I so indecisive?

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There are moments where I waste a lot of time. Yes, when I get sucked into a reality TV marathon is one. Making decisions is another. I have realized I am really indecisive...whether shopping for a new tote bag or debating what to wear, I can spend quite a few more minutes than I need to on making a decision.

Maybe I've always been a tad slow on choosing A, B or C, but I'd never really noticed it. Now, as time is short and days are filled, when I'm indecisive and can't make up my mind...well, it really gets me off schedule, which stresses me out and then makes me even more paralyzed to make a choice.

So, what's at the root of my indecisiveness? Part of it, I'm sure, is that I'm tired. My brain is just wiped out and the ol' noggin isn't firing as quickly. The other part? I don't want to make a mistake. I don't want to choose incorrectly. Weird, but true. This is even a larger issue now as I think so many elements of this Mommy Life is out of my control, often my time is not always my own, the things I do have control over, well, I want to do them right.

What do you think? Are you decisive or indecisive? When are the times you are most indecisive?

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by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Replies (31-40):
elasmimi
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 3:47 PM

I am usually pretty decisive about things. The one exception is paint colors. That takes me forever.

Leelee1008
by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:01 PM

it depends really. Ok no I am very indecisive, I ponder every option and often go back and change my mind several times before picking what I want. DH hates it!

Leelee1008
by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 6:02 PM

me too

Quoting Charizma77:

Oh man, I am extremely indecisive. I have always been... I am trying to be better about it!


Bmat
by Bronze Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 7:35 PM

I feel the same way. I'll jump in and make a decision, but I'd rather not.

Quoting BabyTeki:

I'm indecisive. I hate making decisions on my own.


dusky_rose
by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 8:17 PM

I get indecisive when faced with too many choices. But when I narrow down what I want to pick, then I have an easier time of choosing.


BabyTeki
by on Jan. 31, 2013 at 8:37 PM
Yup I hate it

Quoting Bmat:

I feel the same way. I'll jump in and make a decision, but I'd rather not.

Quoting BabyTeki:

I'm indecisive. I hate making decisions on my own.


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lalasmama2007
by Silver Member on Jan. 31, 2013 at 9:08 PM

Sometimes I'm indecisive.  It depends...

ScrChk23
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 7:32 AM
I don't know. I can't make up my mind if I am or not.
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sukainah
by Gold Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:48 AM

LOL, this sounds like me, but I think I'm a little of both.

Quoting RobynS:

No, I don't think I'm indecisive... well, wait, maybe I am. No... I'm not sure. But maybe. Yeah, probably I am a bit indecisive. *snicker*

(yes, I'm indecisive. Usually it's an insecurity thing--wanting so badly to make the right decision, they I'm scared of what to choose).


sukainah
by Gold Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:52 AM

Those are good methods of helping make decisions!

Quoting abra:

I am also a libra. I used to be really indecisive about everything. As I have gotten older and as situations have necessitated, I've learned to be more assertive. Nobody is perfect so making the right decision all of the time is impossible. If I get stuck, I ask myself what is the worst that can happen? What are the consequences. I weigh the pros and cons. Say a prayer and pick! Sometimes you just gotta do your best with what resources you have. 


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