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Are you in a perfection trap?

Posted by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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I adore Pinterest. Love looking and repinning those pics of fantastically justsocool outfits, the inspiring interiors, yummy tote bags. High on my pinning list: cool DIY crafts that look awesome and relatively easy to do. I noted them back in October,pinned them...and thought to myself, "Yes! This holiday season I will do that! That will make the holidays just perfect."

Did I do those DIY crafts? Nope, not a one.

How do I feel about that? Well, not great, felt a bit of a failure. And, of course, this is just one minor instance of feeling less-than-perfect. I've chatted with loads of mommy friends, and we all have moments when it hits us, when we feel not-so-great and definitely not perfect. Which is tough. Some of us come from that Type A personality, that straight A student mentality that needs to get that gold star.

Let's all have a big sigh, huh? Life -- and especially motherhood -- is not about gold stars. It's about doing the best we can in the moment: the tough moments and the not-so-tough ones. But that isn't always easy to remember, is it?  The thing is, often we are judging ourselves against others...which will always result in trouble. What's that quote by Theodore Roosevelt -- "Comparison is the thief of joy."

How am I letting go of that perfectionist behavior? First step, stop comparing myself to anyone (or any pin, as gorgeous as it may be). Only person I compare myself to? Me.

Do you find yourself falling into the perfection trap? Does anyone in your life try to be perfect all of the time? Do you compare yourself to others?

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by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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lillucky8
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 8:55 AM
I try not to compare myself to others, we are all in different situations and make our own choices. I do the best i can for my family.
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elasmimi
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:01 AM

I find that the older I get, the less I strive for perfection.

4kidz916
by Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:17 AM

I do tend to be a bit of a perfectionist.  I'm trying hard to get out of that trap, especially since my 13 yo son feels he has to be perfect at everything and beats himself up when he feels he didn't do his best. 

goddess99
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:18 AM

nope nope and nope. No one is perfect, I don't try to be someone I'm not.

MamaBear2cubs
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:34 AM

I try not to. Sometimes I do end up trying to be too perfect though.

sukainah
by Gold Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:45 AM

I do compare myself to others.  The others who can take care of the household and have a clean house LOL.  After I had my youngest son, everything had to be perfect and then I just started getting so tired and everything went downhill from there.  I need to get a little of that perfectionism back so I can get things done.


sukainah
by Gold Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:47 AM

Perhaps this is my problem too. :-)

Quoting elasmimi:

I find that the older I get, the less I strive for perfection.


natesmom1228
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:53 AM

I strive for perfection for myself, not for anyone else.

arpazia
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 11:00 AM
Thankfully no
arpazia
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 11:01 AM
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Quoting goddess99:

nope nope and nope. No one is perfect, I don't try to be someone I'm not.



I like this! Very well said.
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