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How would you approach this? Am I out of line?

Posted by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:12 PM
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Background:  My 7 year old goes to public school here in Georgia.  Wednesday, there was extreme weather- more than 1.000 homes were lost to twisters in the northern most part of the state.  However, the National Weather Service had issued Tornado Warnings/Watches for our part of the state as well.  Per safety procedures, the children were not allowed to be realsed from the school building until the watches/warning was lifted.  

Yesterday, there was another school shooting, this time right down the road from where we live.  At Price Middle School, another student shot a 14 year old boy.  While the boy survived, it scares me even more than usual.  At least before, it was far away from home.  

I have always felt my child was safe at school.  I have always felt that the school would do what they could to protect him.  

However, with the state of the world, both from man-made and natural causes, I feel as though more communication than ever is needed with parents and families.  

I feel my son's school is failing.  I feel as though they are failing with communication.  Wednesday, I had more than I could handle when my son arrived home more than 1.5 hours after school was "let out" with no communication with the school.  The school board communicated with all the parents in the county more than 2 hours after the Elementary school students were supposed to be let out of school.  


I wrote the Prinicpal the following email.  

Dear ********-


    I am very frustrated.  I feel like there is a total breakdown in communication from the school to the parents.  

    I understand why the field trip was cancelled and I appreciate that the school acted on the side of caution to keep the students safe, however, I also feel like parents should have been informed of the cancellation when it occurred. There is a need for parents to know where their child is.  If I believe my child is at a certain location, and an emergency happens in that location.  I am going to be stressing out that my child is hurt.  Only to find out, hours later, that my child was not ever in that location.  It is extremely important for me, as a parent, to know where my child is.  

  Also, the school bus has been late, several times the past few weeks, again with no communication.  There is no notice, no phone call, no email sent that there are problems with the bus.  Again, this has been an on going issue and it has left me standing in the cold and wet for more than 30 minutes at a time.  

   I know that school cannot be let out during a tornado warning, and again, I am thankful for you keeping my child safe, but when school is going to be let out late, I expect a phone call or email informing me of the situation.  

   The county put out a phone call yesterday to all parents in the county at 4PM, hours after the incidents happened.  This is unacceptable.  Parents need to informed when events are occurring.  It takes just a few moments to send a mass email or put out a phone tree.  The county has the technology for these things to occur.  

   There has been yet, another, school shooting- this time in our own backyard.  I am worried for my child's safety and the lack of communication from the school is not helping my anxiety about this.  I cannot be an informed parent and help the school to the best of my abilities without communication.  

  What can we do to help this situation?  How can we communicate in a better, more helpful way?  I have spoken to many other parents about this and know that I am not the only one who feels this way.  

Thank you,
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Today, when I was picking my son up from school.  I saw the prinicpal.  He informed me that he had gotten my email.  However, he still has not said anything back to me. I feel as though an email back or a meeting is in order.  

I am upset about this to the point where I have spoken to my boyfriend about pulling my son out of school and homeschooling him!  

What would you do?  Am I out of line?
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 10:12 PM
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blueeyes2000
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:23 AM
I don't think you out of line at all. Communication is key. You deserve to know where your child is and what is happening. A mass email won't take much time for someone to do. There needs to be something in place. Have you thought about going to a school board meeting to bring up your concerns? Maybe try getting a group of parents to go.
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happymommy1105
by Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 8:34 AM
I have. But I wanted to address my concerns with the principal before going over his head so that way he didn't feel blindsided.

I wanted to go in and talk to him in person but I have a 2 month old and with cold and flu season....I really don't want the baby getting sick!


Quoting blueeyes2000:

I don't think you out of line at all. Communication is key. You deserve to know where your child is and what is happening. A mass email won't take much time for someone to do. There needs to be something in place. Have you thought about going to a school board meeting to bring up your concerns? Maybe try getting a group of parents to go.
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blueeyes2000
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:05 AM
Well maybe the principal just needs time to talk to the school board an other higher ups before getting back to you. It may be his call to make.
I would keep on top of the school though about your concern and what the policy is about communicating with parents.


Quoting happymommy1105:

I have. But I wanted to address my concerns with the principal before going over his head so that way he didn't feel blindsided.



I wanted to go in and talk to him in person but I have a 2 month old and with cold and flu season....I really don't want the baby getting sick!




Quoting blueeyes2000:

I don't think you out of line at all. Communication is key. You deserve to know where your child is and what is happening. A mass email won't take much time for someone to do. There needs to be something in place. Have you thought about going to a school board meeting to bring up your concerns? Maybe try getting a group of parents to go.

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happymommy1105
by Member on Feb. 2, 2013 at 9:40 AM
I'm trying to be patient and wait. but at the same time, he can email me and tell me he is working on it.

But still there is a lack of communication about this. I have no problem with him needing to investigate more.

My issue is.......they don't communicate....at all.......about anything. they just blind side parents with stuff and rely on my first grader to give me messages....


Quoting blueeyes2000:

Well maybe the principal just needs time to talk to the school board an other higher ups before getting back to you. It may be his call to make.

I would keep on top of the school though about your concern and what the policy is about communicating with parents.




Quoting happymommy1105:

I have. But I wanted to address my concerns with the principal before going over his head so that way he didn't feel blindsided.





I wanted to go in and talk to him in person but I have a 2 month old and with cold and flu season....I really don't want the baby getting sick!






Quoting blueeyes2000:

I don't think you out of line at all. Communication is key. You deserve to know where your child is and what is happening. A mass email won't take much time for someone to do. There needs to be something in place. Have you thought about going to a school board meeting to bring up your concerns? Maybe try getting a group of parents to go.

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blueeyes2000
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 10:09 AM
I agree an email or something to let you know they are addressing your concern would be best.
Maybe try finding someone to watch your youngest and then go right down to the school. Don't wait for the school to contact you for a meeting. Try contacting them to set up a meeting.
I hope something can be figured out. Good luck.


Quoting happymommy1105:

I'm trying to be patient and wait. but at the same time, he can email me and tell me he is working on it.



But still there is a lack of communication about this. I have no problem with him needing to investigate more.



My issue is.......they don't communicate....at all.......about anything. they just blind side parents with stuff and rely on my first grader to give me messages....




Quoting blueeyes2000:

Well maybe the principal just needs time to talk to the school board an other higher ups before getting back to you. It may be his call to make.


I would keep on top of the school though about your concern and what the policy is about communicating with parents.






Quoting happymommy1105:

I have. But I wanted to address my concerns with the principal before going over his head so that way he didn't feel blindsided.







I wanted to go in and talk to him in person but I have a 2 month old and with cold and flu season....I really don't want the baby getting sick!








Quoting blueeyes2000:

I don't think you out of line at all. Communication is key. You deserve to know where your child is and what is happening. A mass email won't take much time for someone to do. There needs to be something in place. Have you thought about going to a school board meeting to bring up your concerns? Maybe try getting a group of parents to go.


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AzariahsMother
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:26 PM
You are never or of line when it comes to your child. That's just my opinion. Now I would give it another week or and no contract I would contract the superintendent.
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gmadiane
by on Feb. 2, 2013 at 2:41 PM

I don't think you are out of line at all.

TigerofMu
by Gold Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 10:45 AM

You are definitely not out of line.  The school should have definitely been in communication with parents to keep them in the loop.  That would be so scary, to not know what was going on with your child!

bmommyx2
by on Feb. 4, 2013 at 2:26 PM

you are not out of line.  In todays world with the tecnology we have they should be able to have mass phone calls, emails & or text messages.  I would write the school board & the superintendant

meam4444
by Bronze Member on Feb. 4, 2013 at 2:44 PM

 You are not out of line at all.  Communication is necessary and very important.  Plus, this is your child you are entrusting them with daily.  I would be all up in arms.  I just sent an email to my child's school with regards to communication not being given to us about a school function being cancelled last week (even though they required us to bring food for it...which we did earlier that day since we were not going).  And, this isn't even about concern about my child's well-being.  A school needs to know how to communicate well esp. when it comes to big things like what you are dealing with (and even the small things like the one event which I mentioned)!

I hope you hear back soon.  I would maybe ask for a meeting once it works for you.  Good luck mama!

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