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Are you in a parenting rut?

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How are those ruts going? We are attempting breaking free from a few of the most popular kind of icky routines we fall into, the rut when we get into that lulled comfort zone, the rut that often transforms into a plateau. A boring Life plateau.

How about that parenting rut? Even when we are tackling the various challenges every day and juggling a gazillion schedules and tasks, it can be a rut. As if we are on a parenting hamster wheel, forever just going, with the same frustrations of getting to school on time or the soccer game carpools or making lunches or getting the right size shoes.

When I just keep jogging on that parenting wheel, I feel that lose touch of being "in the moment," and I'm not connect with my kiddo or being purposeful with my parenting. Yeah, not fun, feeling this parenting rut. What should we do?

-- Make a list of things you love to do with your kids - and those things you do not like to do with them. Now, I can't always just do all of those things on the "love list" and I know I can't avoid the "not like list," but this gives me a good way to take a gander at what I'm spending the most time on...which list is winning the time war? If it isn't the "love to do list," then maybe I need to make more time to do those things.

-- Take a mommy break. Often, I feel in a rut when I've been working non-stop at something. And parenting is a 24-7 job. Find time for you, even 15 minutes. Even better would be an afternoon just for you. Chances are, when your break is over, you won't feel as rut-ish (is that a word?).

-- Change the routine. Even a little bit. Instead of doing errands in the morning, do them in the afternoon and play after breakfast. Instead of saving the fun stuff like movie night for the weekend, do it on a Wednesday night or serve your usual Friday night pizza on Monday. These little switches in routine can shake up that rut and get everyone in a different mindset.

Do you ever feel in a parenting rut? Share your stories here and what you do it swtich it up!

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by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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by Bronze Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 2:09 PM

I don't feel that I am in a rut, I am in a routine that works well for me and for my family.

by Silver Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 2:15 PM

Yep, I'd say I am in a bit of a parenting rut. Will see what I can do to shake things up!

by Bronze Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 2:16 PM

Nah I feel pretty confident in that area actually.

by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 2:37 PM

yeah sometimes...then  I change things up and do something fun with them

by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 2:51 PM

no I don't think so

by Bronze Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 3:13 PM
Sometimes I am in a rut. We try to jazz it up a bit.
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by on Feb. 8, 2013 at 3:22 PM

No, not really.

by Silver Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 7:42 PM

We have changed some things up a bit. Our son is in kindergarten and we decided to meet up with other moms that we got to know when picking up our son and go to McDonald's or Burger King after so the kids could eat and play (once a week) and we could have some adult conversation at the same time. We also met up for rollerskating on a Saturday which was fun (even though I can't skate, nether can our son, so we are learning together).

by Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 8:44 PM

At one point I did feel like I was in a parenting rut.  I just decided that my kids would only be kids once and that I needed to take the time to make that special for them and for me.  We don't have a large budget to go out and fun with so we make the simple things fun.

by Member on Feb. 8, 2013 at 9:42 PM
Some days more so than others.
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