If you canâ€™t avoid a stressful situation, try to alter it. Figure out what you can do to change things so the problem doesnâ€™t present itself in the future. Often, this involves changing the way you communicate and operate in your daily life.
- Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. If something or someone is bothering you, communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. If you donâ€™t voice your feelings, resentment will build and the situation will likely remain the same.
- Be willing to compromise. When you ask someone to change their behavior, be willing to do the same. If you both are willing to bend at least a little, youâ€™ll have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground.
- Be more assertive. Donâ€™t take a backseat in your own life. Deal with problems head on, doing your best to anticipate and prevent them. If youâ€™ve got an exam to study for and your chatty roommate just got home, say up front that you only have five minutes to talk.
- Manage your time better. Poor time management can cause a lot of stress. When youâ€™re stretched too thin and running behind, itâ€™s hard to stay calm and focused. But if you plan ahead and make sure you donâ€™t overextend yourself, you can alter the amount of stress youâ€™re under.
What works for you?