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Stress management strategy #4: Accept the things you can’t change

Posted by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:05 PM
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Some sources of stress are unavoidable. You can’t prevent or change stressors such as the death of a loved one, a serious illness, or a national recession. In such cases, the best way to cope with stress is to accept things as they are. Acceptance may be difficult, but in the long run, it’s easier than railing against a situation you can’t change.

  • Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Many things in life are beyond our control— particularly the behavior of other people. Rather than stressing out over them, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems.
  • Look for the upside. As the saying goes, “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” When facing major challenges, try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. If your own poor choices contributed to a stressful situation, reflect on them and learn from your mistakes.
  • Share your feelings. Talk to a trusted friend or make an appointment with a therapist. Expressing what you’re going through can be very cathartic, even if there’s nothing you can do to alter the stressful situation.
  • Learn to forgive. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes. Let go of anger and resentments. Free yourself from negative energy by forgiving and moving on

 

How do you deal with unavoidable stress?

by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:05 PM
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slw123
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 8:12 PM

I always say 'what doesn't kill us makes us stronger'.

My method of dealing is to share my feelings.

jessicasmom1
by Silver Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:42 PM

True "'what does not kill us makes us stronger"  

melaniecerise
by Member on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:44 PM

When I am stressed and I know I am going to be stressed, I go and workout to release that stress. I have the problem with wanting to control the uncontrollable. I have trouble sharing my feelings. 

Juniper53098
by on Mar. 23, 2013 at 9:51 PM

I just let it go.  I have enough important stuff to stress over.

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by Platinum Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 12:05 AM

Don't sweat the small stuff :)

chrissydan
by Gold Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 12:31 AM
Working on the learn to forgive part
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MamaMandee
by Gold Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 1:00 AM
Working on this!
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sukainah
by Gold Member on Mar. 24, 2013 at 12:05 PM

Learn to accept that it can't be avoided then do it.

flowerfunleah
by Bronze Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 12:34 AM

This is true!


flowerfunleah
by Bronze Member on Mar. 25, 2013 at 12:35 AM

With unavoidable stress I usually just take a deep breath and accept the things that cannot change and move on. 

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