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Is It OK to Have “Me” Time?

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Our lives are so full of obligations to our kids, our jobs and our families, how are we supposed to find time to do the things we love? Should we even try? Alicia Ybarbo, a TV Producer and author of "Today's Moms" and "Sh*tty Mom" joins the conversation. 

Do you think it's okay to have "me" time?

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 10:48 AM
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by Silver Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 2:58 PM


by Silver Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 3:43 PM

Of course, it not only benefits me, but my whole family!!  If I get some time, I take care of my family better!!

by Gold Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 4:27 PM
Yes I think it is not only ok but important.
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by Platinum Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 4:30 PM
Everyone needs a little me time. My showers are mostly my me time. Of course it's not very relaxing when there is a toddler outside the door being to be let in.

I always try to get 30 minutes a day of just me. It's my relaxing time and gives me a chance to destress and forget about all the minor annoyances of the day.
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by Bronze Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 4:49 PM

Yes its ok to have Me Time, every parent deserves this. =)

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 4:59 PM
I think it's great to have "me" time, but I just don't get that very often.
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by Gold Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 5:24 PM

Yes, definitely!

by Silver Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 5:42 PM

I think it's critical! But that doesn't mean it's easy...

by Bronze Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 5:46 PM

I think it's important to have "me" time. It's just hard to do. I have started working out with a personal trainer. She does it free in her basement and allows you take your kids. So even though I'm doing something for myself I still have to take my kid/kids. It's nice that I can bring them with me but they are always walking up and need something or asking you questions. The only real me time I get is once a month at the Mops meetings :)

by Gold Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 6:10 PM

That's a great way to distinguish the issue...

... I often think that the moms who feel 'guilty' about 'me-time' are the ones who spend the least time taking care of genuine needs (of their own or their kids') and the most time trying to pander to wants to make up for it.

Quoting abra:

Agreed. Mom's especially need to understand the difference between a child's needs and a child's wants. Needs must be attended too (even if that need is a little more one-on-one time with mom when she is tired), wants should only be indulged responsibly. 

Quoting LindaClement:

I agree, that moms need to ensure they nurture their needs, throughout the day, every single day.

That's not the same as walking away from the people they claim to love the most in the whole world, to spend hours (or days) of time and money (and often even more energy) with strangers and acquaintences (hair stylists, waiters, random people on the cruise ship).

Generally, if kids are young enough to need a nap, mom also needs a nap. 

I don't understand how 'me time' stopped including 'my basic physical needs.' 

Quoting abra:

I do think moms need a break. Especially if mom is an introvert (as I am) and recharge through alone time, it is especially important to maintain sanity. Part of being a good mom, and fully embracing motherhood is recognizing that a run-down, worn out, exhausted mom isn't a good mom. I do make sure its at a good time so nobody is really inconvenienced by my need for mom time (because being self-ish about my time is not healthy for anyone). My kids take a nap or rest time everyday so I can have an hour or two of me time.

That statistic about working moms and SAHM spend the same amount of time with their kids...That's just wrong! SAHM should be spending more time with their kids coupled with reasonable time away from them (not excessive because then what is the point of being home?).  

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