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Is It OK to Have “Me” Time?

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Our lives are so full of obligations to our kids, our jobs and our families, how are we supposed to find time to do the things we love? Should we even try? Alicia Ybarbo, a TV Producer and author of "Today's Moms" and "Sh*tty Mom" joins the conversation. 

Do you think it's okay to have "me" time?

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 10:48 AM
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by Platinum Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 6:12 PM
1 mom liked this

Very sensible.

For moms who don't have helpful dads in the picture, it's important to build a rich social network --of other women with children, of friends without children, of helpful and supportive relatives, and even mother's helpers/house cleaners... 

Quoting abra:

I think it can be especially helpful to have a husband/father who is involved and caring enough to recognize when mom needs some time to herself so he can advocate and provide that time for her. That way she isn't tempted to be selfish with her time, but she also doesn't end up burning out or feeling guilty. There have been times when my husband has told me to go out with my friends and he'll watch the kids (and sometime my friends kids, too, or alternately, all the husbands will get together and babysit) so we moms can have an evening of kid-free fun when it would be beneficial for everyone. 

Quoting LindaClement:

I think it's hilarious that a working mom says 'I need to get out of the house' ... unless she works out of her house, that's just irrational. 

I think it's the adult's raging sense of entitlement, not any genuine 'need' to be away from the people they love to do the things they enjoy. 

I'm reading Peter Walsh's 'Enough Already' currently, and he makes this observation about entitlement today: 

"Think back a generation ago. We don't carpool, we think each family member is entitled to a car. Did our grandparents have two cars? Did they pay for cable and multiple cell phones and Internet and movie rentals? Did they have computers and digital cameras and printers? Did your grandmother get manicures, massages and highlights in her hair?"

by Gold Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 6:19 PM

Everyone needs me time.

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:06 PM

Ofcourse:) it's needed in my opinion. 

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:07 PM

I agree 100%!!

Quoting mrswillie:

Everyone needs me time.

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:08 PM


Quoting fraujones:

Yes. Many would be less resentful if they took a little personal time now and then.

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:08 PM

Me too!:)

Quoting Bob192:

Of course, it not only benefits me, but my whole family!!  If I get some time, I take care of my family better!!

by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:23 PM

It's definitely ok to have 'me' time.  A nice long shower is 'me time' at my house.

by Bronze Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:36 PM

Of course it is, and maybe even essential to being a good mom.

by Silver Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:37 PM

Quoting Juniper53098:

Definitely.  Everyone needs some time to themselves.

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by Silver Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 8:37 PM
if i didn't have some me time daily i would go crazy
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