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Do pregnant women deserve special treatment?

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Pregnant Women Deserve Special Treatment Not Discrimination

posted by Michele Zipp 


pregnantThere are some who feel that pregnancy is not a disability. And it certainly isn't ... in most ways. But in the eyes of the law (and the land) perhaps it has to be seen as such in order for us to have rights. Let's face it: there are things we just cannot do when we are pregnant that we were able to do prior and after. And I'm not just talking about seeing our feet. Pregnant women deserve special treatment. We deserve the special parking space at the mall and the seat on the subway. And we deserve understanding from bosses or teachers. But we don't always get it.

There are women who are fired from their jobs for being pregnant. There are women who are in school, paying for a good education, only to be discriminated against because they are pregnant.

We deserve to be able to reschedule tests at school if they interfere with the fact that we are pregnant and about to give birth. With pregnancy discrimination on the rise, respect for pregnant women feels like it's at a major low. We don't expect some special red carpet rolled out every time we step outside, but we should be treated with respect and understanding. Empathy is a human emotion far too many lack.

There are situations where pregnant women lose their jobs and it's covered up by bosses by supposed "lay offs" or some sort of loophole where they don't blame pregnancy but it's clearly the reason. Last year a pregnant woman was fired for taking too many bathroom breaks. Hello empathy. Are you there?

Slate's Jessica Grose shed light on pregnancy discrimination when it comes to education. When Borough of Manhattan Community College honors student needed to make arrangements for the end of the semester because that was her due date, her teacher was not understanding. Interestingly it was a women's studies class. Gina Crosley-Corcoran aka The Feminist Breeder also discovered how her professors at a Chicago university weren't accepting her pregnancy and birth as an excuse to miss class. She learned we have rights. And it's called Title IX. Schools are required by law to allow pregnant students to reschedule exams.

The Pregnancy Discrimination Act should be also protecting the rights of women in the workplace, but the law doesn't fully protect us. Take for example nursing home activities director Victoria Seredny who was fired from her job because she was pregnant -- high-risk -- and could no longer lift or move heavy objects per doctor's orders. She sued and lost. 

Seat on a subway, extra bathroom breaks, rescheduled tests -- I think we deserve all these things and more when we are pregnant. I hope The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission's recent move to shed light on and correct pregnancy discrimination helps make some changes. But to start, I really think people need to get in touch with their human side more and show some compassion for life.

Have you been victim of pregnancy discrimination? Do you think pregnant women deserve special treatment?

by on May. 9, 2013 at 9:37 AM
Replies (11-20):
Hannahsmommy816
by Silver Member on May. 10, 2013 at 10:41 AM

 oh how horrible :( i'm in retail and changed my morning hours to nights and they were fine

Quoting conweis:

I think consideration should be in play. I quit my job in my third pregnancy because my managers were jerks. They decided I should come in an hour earlier and then bitched about me having morning sickness. They cut my hours but still wanted me to do the same amount of work. Including stocking the coolers. All that bending, squatting, climbing a ladder and reaching over my head with heavy boxes caused me to start spotting. I was also told I couldn't eat in the break room after I was off the clock. I would have to go outside in eat during winter. They pushed me out of my job.

 

conweis
by Platinum Member on May. 10, 2013 at 10:44 AM
If you are in the hospital you can ask to have your tests rescheule. Why not giving birh?

Quoting othermom:

I don't think pregnant women need special treatment unless they are high risk or something. I still did basically all the same things I did before pregnancy through all three, including working with my last pregnancy. It is nice for people to help carry things, maybe extra bathroom breaks, but not reschedualing tests and things like that

conweis
by Platinum Member on May. 10, 2013 at 10:50 AM
They assumed I could control my morning sickness

Quoting Hannahsmommy816:

 oh how horrible :( i'm in retail and changed my morning hours to nights and they were fine


Quoting conweis:

I think consideration should be in play. I quit my job in my third pregnancy because my managers were jerks. They decided I should come in an hour earlier and then bitched about me having morning sickness. They cut my hours but still wanted me to do the same amount of work. Including stocking the coolers. All that bending, squatting, climbing a ladder and reaching over my head with heavy boxes caused me to start spotting. I was also told I couldn't eat in the break room after I was off the clock. I would have to go outside in eat during winter. They pushed me out of my job.

 

othermom
by Platinum Member on May. 10, 2013 at 10:57 AM

 

For birth yes I think tests should be reschedualed, but not for regular appointments and things

Quoting conweis:

If you are in the hospital you can ask to have your tests rescheule. Why not giving birh?

Quoting othermom:

I don't think pregnant women need special treatment unless they are high risk or something. I still did basically all the same things I did before pregnancy through all three, including working with my last pregnancy. It is nice for people to help carry things, maybe extra bathroom breaks, but not reschedualing tests and things like that


 

conweis
by Platinum Member on May. 10, 2013 at 11:03 AM
Not for appointments but birth, yes. But the thing is some teachers don't care if a student is in labor since pregnancy is considered voluntary.

Quoting othermom:

 


For birth yes I think tests should be reschedualed, but not for regular appointments and things


Quoting conweis:

If you are in the hospital you can ask to have your tests rescheule. Why not giving birh?


Quoting othermom:


I don't think pregnant women need special treatment unless they are high risk or something. I still did basically all the same things I did before pregnancy through all three, including working with my last pregnancy. It is nice for people to help carry things, maybe extra bathroom breaks, but not reschedualing tests and things like that




 

RUCRIOUS925
by on May. 10, 2013 at 11:19 AM

I don't know about "special" treatment as much as I would think about a little bit of courtesy. Maybe a seat offered on train or bus, maybe door held, grocery clerk help with bags a little more but I don't think special. Unless you have medical issues, at risk etc...Pregnancy is just another stage in a womans life. :)

dtm1491
by on May. 10, 2013 at 1:00 PM

In some cases yes. For example, I waitressed until I was 9 months. When I had to eat, I had to eat. Nobody ever gave me a problem. Personally, if I were in line to use a restroom, I would allow a pregnant person ahead of me. I would do that in a store or pretty much any public setting. I don't consider it special treatment just a common courtesy. I certainly have been there.

ktp111
by on May. 10, 2013 at 1:09 PM

Of course a pregnant woman should be treated special, she is special withut even saying words sometimes, like if she needs a seat etc.. and not only then, there are several situations it should be almost imperative like a pee

fiddlerbird555
by on May. 10, 2013 at 5:38 PM

FWIW, I did that once.  

Quoting la_bella_vita:

 No, never a victim but I once had to wait in a superlong bathroom line after a movie and I was hoping someone would let me cut in front! I honestly thought I was going to pee my pants! Note to self, never go to the movies 37 weeks pregnant while drinking a giant water bottle!


brittany208
by Platinum Member on May. 11, 2013 at 10:31 AM

Yes and no. I dont think they should be discriminated against, in terms of losing their jobs just because they are pregnant. I dont know that they DESERVE to get all kinds of special treatment though. Not that I mind, though... DH keeps telling me I shouldn't be working. I should be sitting at home with my feet up. But I'm still perfectly capable, so why not?

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