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Do pregnant women deserve special treatment?

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Pregnant Women Deserve Special Treatment Not Discrimination

posted by Michele Zipp 

pregnantThere are some who feel that pregnancy is not a disability. And it certainly isn't ... in most ways. But in the eyes of the law (and the land) perhaps it has to be seen as such in order for us to have rights. Let's face it: there are things we just cannot do when we are pregnant that we were able to do prior and after. And I'm not just talking about seeing our feet. Pregnant women deserve special treatment. We deserve the special parking space at the mall and the seat on the subway. And we deserve understanding from bosses or teachers. But we don't always get it.

There are women who are fired from their jobs for being pregnant. There are women who are in school, paying for a good education, only to be discriminated against because they are pregnant.

We deserve to be able to reschedule tests at school if they interfere with the fact that we are pregnant and about to give birth. With pregnancy discrimination on the rise, respect for pregnant women feels like it's at a major low. We don't expect some special red carpet rolled out every time we step outside, but we should be treated with respect and understanding. Empathy is a human emotion far too many lack.

There are situations where pregnant women lose their jobs and it's covered up by bosses by supposed "lay offs" or some sort of loophole where they don't blame pregnancy but it's clearly the reason. Last year a pregnant woman was fired for taking too many bathroom breaks. Hello empathy. Are you there?

Slate's Jessica Grose shed light on pregnancy discrimination when it comes to education. When Borough of Manhattan Community College honors student needed to make arrangements for the end of the semester because that was her due date, her teacher was not understanding. Interestingly it was a women's studies class. Gina Crosley-Corcoran aka The Feminist Breeder also discovered how her professors at a Chicago university weren't accepting her pregnancy and birth as an excuse to miss class. She learned we have rights. And it's called Title IX. Schools are required by law to allow pregnant students to reschedule exams.

The Pregnancy Discrimination Act should be also protecting the rights of women in the workplace, but the law doesn't fully protect us. Take for example nursing home activities director Victoria Seredny who was fired from her job because she was pregnant -- high-risk -- and could no longer lift or move heavy objects per doctor's orders. She sued and lost. 

Seat on a subway, extra bathroom breaks, rescheduled tests -- I think we deserve all these things and more when we are pregnant. I hope The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission's recent move to shed light on and correct pregnancy discrimination helps make some changes. But to start, I really think people need to get in touch with their human side more and show some compassion for life.

Have you been victim of pregnancy discrimination? Do you think pregnant women deserve special treatment?

by on May. 9, 2013 at 9:37 AM
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by Member on May. 11, 2013 at 10:33 AM
I lost my job because of being pregnant. They didn't say it, but the bigger I got the less hours I got until they stopped altogether.
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by Gold Member on May. 11, 2013 at 1:51 PM

I haven't been a victim of pregnancy discrimination, but I think that, yes, they should have some special treatments to a certain point.

by Silver Member on May. 11, 2013 at 1:53 PM


by New Member on May. 12, 2013 at 10:36 PM

You don't think you should be able to reshedule a test? What if it interfered with a Doctor's appointment, or was on your due date or you were rushed to the hospital in an emergency? Should you just fail the class? Because none of these are something you can control.

Quoting othermom:

I don't think pregnant women need special treatment unless they are high risk or something. I still did basically all the same things I did before pregnancy through all three, including working with my last pregnancy. It is nice for people to help carry things, maybe extra bathroom breaks, but not reschedualing tests and things like that

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by Silver Member on May. 12, 2013 at 10:40 PM

I never felt discriminated. Sometimes I felt like I was getting special treatment but never expected it or needed it.

by Gold Member on May. 12, 2013 at 11:19 PM
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I think it matters why they are getting special treatment and what for. I don't think I can say yes or no without it being a case by case type thing.

by Silver Member on May. 13, 2013 at 11:38 AM

I never thought about it. I knwo that when I was pregnant, I didn't seek out any kind of special treatment.

by Silver Member on May. 13, 2013 at 12:25 PM

i never expected special treatment. i worked at a state park up until my second child was born, and there were a lot of older guys who worked there, the one guy i would do bathrooms/firepits with sometimes wouldn't let me lift picnic tables or anything lol. i started having contractions one day (not big ones, i guess you could call them braxton hicks) a few days before the real thing, and i didn't say anything to him, cause he probably would have made me stay put and do nothing!! lol

they did stick me in the tollbooth a lot tho -.-

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