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My Husband's Gift

Posted by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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Lately, Kiddo and my husband have been throwing a little nerf-like poof ball around the abode. He's teaching her the proper throwing and catching basics: Step back, shift, step forward as you toss it. Don't catch the ball with your face. Keep your eyes open. You know, the basics. This is definitely one category that he's in charge of illuminating for the kiddo - the sports stuff. Rather gender-stereotype-ish, but really, to say I am not that great at sports stuff is an understatement.

I asked him, though, what would be the main thing he would want to teach her, to guide her through this crazy life. Without hesitation, he said, "I want to teach her to be independent." Now, that can mean a lot of things, I know, so I nudged him to elaborate. "I want her to always think for herself. To make choices not because others are doing it too, or to get validation from teachers or even us, but to choose to do things and act and be because it is who she is and wants to do."

This? This I love. And this is why I love my husband. To say he's a great dad is an unjustice, is not enough. He's an impossibley awesome dad. I learn a lot and am reminded of a lot in terms of parenting when I watch him with Kiddo. The cool thing: we each bring to the parenting table something different in terms of life skills and perspectives. I can never teach her something in the same way he can (and will)...and that is okay. He has his way and I have mine. Sure, we are on the same foundation and all, but she picks up different elements, different bits of Life Stuff from each of us.   

And the best gift I give him this Father's Day (and every other day)? Letting him be the dad he wants to be. Not to nudge (I'm a nudger) or second-guess or impose my "control" over everything (I'm a controller)...that is a big gift, one that doesn't come wrapped in a box. A gift that is for him, but also for my kiddo.

What are you giving your husband for Father's Day? What does he give and teach your kids that makes you smile?

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by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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bhwrn1
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 5:27 AM

Nice! I want pink and purple Chucks!

TheJerseyGirl
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 7:05 AM

 He got a new grill..I know, VERY exciting!LOL!

johnny4ever
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 7:49 AM
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Pinterest idea

liveforever
by Platinum Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 8:12 AM
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My dh got these bookends (hes been asking for them-hes big on biking now). We already gave them to him because I work all day Sunday.

I like that hes gotten dd(7) into it. I got  a text at work last night of them on the trail. He said they went about 5 miles. Its become popular daddy/daughter time for them.

liveforever
by Platinum Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 8:13 AM


Quoting TheJerseyGirl:

 He got a new grill..I know, VERY exciting!LOL!

My dh would kill for a new grill right now lol

katvixenstar
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 8:16 AM

I decided the SO will be getting boxers from me ;)

i have a Pinterest idea i have been sitting on since his birthday, so I ddon't know if it will get done or not.

katvixenstar
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 8:17 AM

I want a new grill! Lol

Quoting TheJerseyGirl:

 He got a new grill..I know, VERY exciting!LOL!


Wish2Be
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 9:03 AM

Your gift is a better gift than I would give my DH....my DH doesnt censor anything and it bothers me to no end.

This year...he is getting cheesecake. LOL

la1118
by Laura on Jun. 14, 2013 at 9:14 AM
Nice post. Your DH sounds like a keeper. :-)

My DH buys his own gifts and then lets me wrap them. LOL. He got himself a small suitcase and an ABA basketball, which he plans on getting signed by a former ABA/NBA player. I also got him some wine stoppers, a movie, and some bbq meat rubs.
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sukainah
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 9:48 AM

We didn't get him anything, but a card.  He doesn't really do Mother's Day or Father's Day.  But he is good with playing with the kids. Much better than I am.

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