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Lately, Kiddo and my husband have been throwing a little nerf-like poof ball around the abode. He's teaching her the proper throwing and catching basics: Step back, shift, step forward as you toss it. Don't catch the ball with your face. Keep your eyes open. You know, the basics. This is definitely one category that he's in charge of illuminating for the kiddo - the sports stuff. Rather gender-stereotype-ish, but really, to say I am not that great at sports stuff is an understatement.

I asked him, though, what would be the main thing he would want to teach her, to guide her through this crazy life. Without hesitation, he said, "I want to teach her to be independent." Now, that can mean a lot of things, I know, so I nudged him to elaborate. "I want her to always think for herself. To make choices not because others are doing it too, or to get validation from teachers or even us, but to choose to do things and act and be because it is who she is and wants to do."

This? This I love. And this is why I love my husband. To say he's a great dad is an unjustice, is not enough. He's an impossibley awesome dad. I learn a lot and am reminded of a lot in terms of parenting when I watch him with Kiddo. The cool thing: we each bring to the parenting table something different in terms of life skills and perspectives. I can never teach her something in the same way he can (and will)...and that is okay. He has his way and I have mine. Sure, we are on the same foundation and all, but she picks up different elements, different bits of Life Stuff from each of us.   

And the best gift I give him this Father's Day (and every other day)? Letting him be the dad he wants to be. Not to nudge (I'm a nudger) or second-guess or impose my "control" over everything (I'm a controller)...that is a big gift, one that doesn't come wrapped in a box. A gift that is for him, but also for my kiddo.

What are you giving your husband for Father's Day? What does he give and teach your kids that makes you smile?

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by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Replies (21-30):
Miranda1127
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 1:09 PM

 We are getting him a day at the man spa (aka golf course). Dh is amazing w/the mathematical/sciency stuff. He always has the kids thinking on their feet.

Miranda1127
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 1:17 PM

 lol...sounds like me. I buy all of my own gifts and give them to dh so he and the kids can wrap them.

Quoting la1118:

Nice post. Your DH sounds like a keeper. :-)

My DH buys his own gifts and then lets me wrap them. LOL. He got himself a small suitcase and an ABA basketball, which he plans on getting signed by a former ABA/NBA player. I also got him some wine stoppers, a movie, and some bbq meat rubs.

 

chattycassie
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 2:26 PM

 My s/o is not the father of my children but treats them better than any of their bio dads do. We don't have much to spend on gifts I will probably cook him some steak and be done with it. He teaches our kids to be honest,  works with them on sports goes to games and teachers conferences. What he really does is show my girls that you don't need to be a bio dad to be a GREAT dad. I LOVE that

Samanthamommy
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 3:04 PM

we're going camping for the first time since having kids so he got to buy all new camping gear, and I got him a wallet and new sunglasses.

Firenygirl180
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 3:07 PM
He is getting a t-shirt from the kids and a book from me.
Firenygirl180
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 3:09 PM
I usually ask df if he has any ideas for my gifts. If he says no then i buy myself something and he gives it to me


Quoting Miranda1127:

 lol...sounds like me. I buy all of my own gifts and give them to dh so he and the kids can wrap them.


Quoting la1118:

Nice post. Your DH sounds like a keeper. :-)

My DH buys his own gifts and then lets me wrap them. LOL. He got himself a small suitcase and an ABA basketball, which he plans on getting signed by a former ABA/NBA player. I also got him some wine stoppers, a movie, and some bbq meat rubs.

 


4kidz916
by Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 3:46 PM
1 mom liked this

Me too!  Mine is on it's last leg. 

Quoting katvixenstar:

I want a new grill! Lol

Quoting TheJerseyGirl:

 He got a new grill..I know, VERY exciting!LOL!



GypsiSky
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 3:55 PM

My husband is amazing. He teaches our kids to dare to dream big huge dreams and then not be afraid to follow them. He teaches them not to apologize for the great life they have but to be always thankful for it.

I'm buying him another pair of Louis Vuitton casual shoes.

sanj1213
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:26 PM

He loves watches and shoes so which ever he decides on. 

sanj1213
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:27 PM
1 mom liked this

Nice!!:)

Quoting GypsiSky:

My husband is amazing. He teaches our kids to dare to dream big huge dreams and then not be afraid to follow them. He teaches them not to apologize for the great life they have but to be always thankful for it.

I'm buying him another pair of Louis Vuitton casual shoes.


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