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Lately, Kiddo and my husband have been throwing a little nerf-like poof ball around the abode. He's teaching her the proper throwing and catching basics: Step back, shift, step forward as you toss it. Don't catch the ball with your face. Keep your eyes open. You know, the basics. This is definitely one category that he's in charge of illuminating for the kiddo - the sports stuff. Rather gender-stereotype-ish, but really, to say I am not that great at sports stuff is an understatement.

I asked him, though, what would be the main thing he would want to teach her, to guide her through this crazy life. Without hesitation, he said, "I want to teach her to be independent." Now, that can mean a lot of things, I know, so I nudged him to elaborate. "I want her to always think for herself. To make choices not because others are doing it too, or to get validation from teachers or even us, but to choose to do things and act and be because it is who she is and wants to do."

This? This I love. And this is why I love my husband. To say he's a great dad is an unjustice, is not enough. He's an impossibley awesome dad. I learn a lot and am reminded of a lot in terms of parenting when I watch him with Kiddo. The cool thing: we each bring to the parenting table something different in terms of life skills and perspectives. I can never teach her something in the same way he can (and will)...and that is okay. He has his way and I have mine. Sure, we are on the same foundation and all, but she picks up different elements, different bits of Life Stuff from each of us.   

And the best gift I give him this Father's Day (and every other day)? Letting him be the dad he wants to be. Not to nudge (I'm a nudger) or second-guess or impose my "control" over everything (I'm a controller)...that is a big gift, one that doesn't come wrapped in a box. A gift that is for him, but also for my kiddo.

What are you giving your husband for Father's Day? What does he give and teach your kids that makes you smile?

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by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Replies (31-40):
sanj1213
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:29 PM

Haha me too! One low top and one high top:)

Quoting bhwrn1:

Nice! I want pink and purple Chucks!


alliesmom112
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:29 PM

 he got his new Ipad last month. Today dd picked him out a new shirt, season 2 of Duck Dynasty, and made him 2 coffee mugs.

alliesmom112
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:30 PM

 I think the greatest thing he is teaching our daughter is to be independent and not be afraid to be herself

sanj1213
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:30 PM

Oh yes very exciting!! The whole family benefits:)

Quoting TheJerseyGirl:

 He got a new grill..I know, VERY exciting!LOL!


sanj1213
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:31 PM

Lol! I love cheesecake!

Quoting Wish2Be:

Your gift is a better gift than I would give my DH....my DH doesnt censor anything and it bothers me to no end.

This year...he is getting cheesecake. LOL


sanj1213
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 4:32 PM

LOL

Quoting elasmimi:

Same thing he got me for Mother's Day, lol. A good am kiss.


LOswald0314
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 5:42 PM

 I got DH some accessories for his new meat smoker.

bhwrn1
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 7:03 PM
1 mom liked this

I was thinking high tops in pink, low tops in purple!

Quoting sanj1213:

Haha me too! One low top and one high top:)

Quoting bhwrn1:

Nice! I want pink and purple Chucks!



Kmakksmom
by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 7:08 PM
We got a 2002 Suburban earlier this month. We desperately needed a new vehicle and my husband is considering that to be his Father's Day gift.
jbjb1024
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 7:15 PM
A card from me and Rylee. Also getting his tattoo done
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