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Lately, Kiddo and my husband have been throwing a little nerf-like poof ball around the abode. He's teaching her the proper throwing and catching basics: Step back, shift, step forward as you toss it. Don't catch the ball with your face. Keep your eyes open. You know, the basics. This is definitely one category that he's in charge of illuminating for the kiddo - the sports stuff. Rather gender-stereotype-ish, but really, to say I am not that great at sports stuff is an understatement.

I asked him, though, what would be the main thing he would want to teach her, to guide her through this crazy life. Without hesitation, he said, "I want to teach her to be independent." Now, that can mean a lot of things, I know, so I nudged him to elaborate. "I want her to always think for herself. To make choices not because others are doing it too, or to get validation from teachers or even us, but to choose to do things and act and be because it is who she is and wants to do."

This? This I love. And this is why I love my husband. To say he's a great dad is an unjustice, is not enough. He's an impossibley awesome dad. I learn a lot and am reminded of a lot in terms of parenting when I watch him with Kiddo. The cool thing: we each bring to the parenting table something different in terms of life skills and perspectives. I can never teach her something in the same way he can (and will)...and that is okay. He has his way and I have mine. Sure, we are on the same foundation and all, but she picks up different elements, different bits of Life Stuff from each of us.   

And the best gift I give him this Father's Day (and every other day)? Letting him be the dad he wants to be. Not to nudge (I'm a nudger) or second-guess or impose my "control" over everything (I'm a controller)...that is a big gift, one that doesn't come wrapped in a box. A gift that is for him, but also for my kiddo.

What are you giving your husband for Father's Day? What does he give and teach your kids that makes you smile?

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by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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Miranda1127
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 7:18 PM

 Dh is so clueless. He would ask me like 1000 times before 'the day' what I wanted. The first few times I would give him some ideas, the next few I would be a bit more specific, the last 100 or so I would be VERY specific....even jot it down on a note for him. All this just so he could run around all panicked the day before asking over and over what it was I wanted again. A few years ago I gave up and would just hand him what I got myself. Now that dd is older I may not have to buy my own stuff anymore, she (at 11) has much more of a clue than dh ever will...lol.

Quoting Firenygirl180:

I usually ask df if he has any ideas for my gifts. If he says no then i buy myself something and he gives it to me


Quoting Miranda1127:

 lol...sounds like me. I buy all of my own gifts and give them to dh so he and the kids can wrap them.


Quoting la1118:

Nice post. Your DH sounds like a keeper. :-)

My DH buys his own gifts and then lets me wrap them. LOL. He got himself a small suitcase and an ABA basketball, which he plans on getting signed by a former ABA/NBA player. I also got him some wine stoppers, a movie, and some bbq meat rubs.

 


 

Miranda1127
by Bronze Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 7:21 PM

 Ohhh...that sounds like so much fun. ENJOY!

Quoting Samanthamommy:

we're going camping for the first time since having kids so he got to buy all new camping gear, and I got him a wallet and new sunglasses.

 

la_bella_vita
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 9:38 PM

 Shoes : ) Lol he is obsessed!

I also made him a few things with the kids

He LOVES homemade gifts

la_bella_vita
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 9:40 PM

 

Quoting Samanthamommy:

we're going camping for the first time since having kids so he got to buy all new camping gear, and I got him a wallet and new sunglasses.

 Have fun <3

HamBergerMama
by Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 9:47 PM
We don't do gifts to each other for Hallmark Holidays, but I did make reservations for a restaurant we have been wanting to try for a date night =)
Charizma77
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 10:24 PM

Cool! We made him gifts this year, tight budget..lol

chrissydan
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 10:31 PM
I am making dh bacon roses and he is getting some new tool lol.

He is a wonderful father I love to watch him teach dd everyday
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Wish2Be
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 11:29 PM

DH's birthday is on the 6th and with Fathers Day right around the corner....I just got him a wii remote....so its kind of a duel gift...lol

timon95
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 11:32 PM

a book, gift card and money so he can go to the movies

dusky_rose
by Silver Member on Jun. 14, 2013 at 11:57 PM

I think that I will look for a new ball cap for him (if I ever get a chance to go shopping without him). His is old and faded and sad. Maybe one that says world's best dad on it would be nice. He has a way of talking to our son that works just right.


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