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Lately, Kiddo and my husband have been throwing a little nerf-like poof ball around the abode. He's teaching her the proper throwing and catching basics: Step back, shift, step forward as you toss it. Don't catch the ball with your face. Keep your eyes open. You know, the basics. This is definitely one category that he's in charge of illuminating for the kiddo - the sports stuff. Rather gender-stereotype-ish, but really, to say I am not that great at sports stuff is an understatement.

I asked him, though, what would be the main thing he would want to teach her, to guide her through this crazy life. Without hesitation, he said, "I want to teach her to be independent." Now, that can mean a lot of things, I know, so I nudged him to elaborate. "I want her to always think for herself. To make choices not because others are doing it too, or to get validation from teachers or even us, but to choose to do things and act and be because it is who she is and wants to do."

This? This I love. And this is why I love my husband. To say he's a great dad is an unjustice, is not enough. He's an impossibley awesome dad. I learn a lot and am reminded of a lot in terms of parenting when I watch him with Kiddo. The cool thing: we each bring to the parenting table something different in terms of life skills and perspectives. I can never teach her something in the same way he can (and will)...and that is okay. He has his way and I have mine. Sure, we are on the same foundation and all, but she picks up different elements, different bits of Life Stuff from each of us.   

And the best gift I give him this Father's Day (and every other day)? Letting him be the dad he wants to be. Not to nudge (I'm a nudger) or second-guess or impose my "control" over everything (I'm a controller)...that is a big gift, one that doesn't come wrapped in a box. A gift that is for him, but also for my kiddo.

What are you giving your husband for Father's Day? What does he give and teach your kids that makes you smile?

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by on Jun. 14, 2013 at 12:00 AM
Replies (51-60):
.Angelica.
by Silver Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 1:21 AM

we don't really celebrate fathers day

loveTHEviking
by on Jun. 15, 2013 at 9:11 AM

For DH's gift I just ordered him some cd's he's been wanting. What makes me smile? I can just see the love he has for our boys radiate off of him when he's with them and THAT makes me smile <3.

brittany208
by Gold Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 12:10 PM

lol!! 


Quoting Miranda1127:

 We are getting him a day at the man spa (aka golf course). Dh is amazing w/the mathematical/sciency stuff. He always has the kids thinking on their feet.


 

Bmat
by Bronze Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 2:33 PM

I am giving him a book. He taught our sons to be compassionate and hard workers.

Rushn311
by on Jun. 15, 2013 at 7:44 PM

We got him a video game called Dead Island; RipTide and a shirt that says best dad.

mikemantha
by Silver Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 8:58 PM

We don't get each other anything for Mother's Day or Father's Day. We are happy just hanging out with each other and maybe going out to eat. DH is a good parent/dad/father/friend everything rolled into one for the kids and me! I always have to buy him stuff because he buys us stuff before himself. 

Sisteract
by Bronze Member on Jun. 15, 2013 at 11:56 PM

New couch

jessicasmom1
by Silver Member on Jun. 16, 2013 at 9:21 AM

:-) nice he is no longer here so I only cook Father's favorite meal

critter_boo
by Bronze Member on Jun. 16, 2013 at 11:03 AM
Nice
TheBabyFactory4
by Silver Member on Jun. 16, 2013 at 3:13 PM
We aren't exchanging actual store bought gifts this year for mothers/fathers day. We chose to save the money for activities we can do with the kids
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