We touched on it a bit yesterday, but the whole men in decline issue makes me think about one thing. Expectations we make for ourselves, for our lives. We all do it to some extent, form a picture of what we want/should/need to be, what our lives should "look" like in order to feel happy, to feel successful.
This is where I think men are really having a hard time with this decline, this changing of their roles. It wasn't what is "usually" expected. It wasn't what Life, what men in their lives are "supposed" to do. And that mental shift is tough to swallow. I don't do well with change, I play certain scenarios in my brain about Life, what may or may not or should happen. I try not to, I'm aiming to be better at it, but it is hard. Really hard.
How does anyone cope with that turn in the road of Life? Well, you can dig in your heels and refuse, you can turn around and run the other way, you can just stop all together...all of these are pretty strong options, but not healthy ones. Exploring that new world, that new role that he was forced into may be rough, but a few tiny steps in that direction could be all it takes to become much more comfortable with this Brave New Man World.
In any situation where a spouse is struggling, the partner can play a big part in how this succeeds or not. Talking about it, not pushing, recognizing how tough it is, pointing out aspects of the new road that could be good things. It is so easy to fall into looking at the negative, helping to keep his eyes on some positive elements to this new world he's been thrown in can make a big difference.
Are any of the guys in your life in decline? Have they made a big switch that has been tough to do?