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Is it too late to have a wedding?

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I am a happily married mom. 

DH and I eloped two years ago and had a baby a little over a year later.  At the time we eloped, we told DH's parents but not mine as they didn't like my soon to be husband.  We told them a few months later.

Now, we'd like to have a large family wedding to celebrate our happy life. 

My grandmother says that having a reception would be a good idea, but a "wedding" with a dress and attendants would be in very bad taste. I disagree -- but am I being selfish? I love my family, but I am going to have only one ceremony in my life.

I was thinking we could have it in the church and I could have bridesmaids and everything. I won't wear white -- my gown would be ivory. What do you think? 

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 21, 2013 at 8:49 AM
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by Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 8:54 AM
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I see nothing wrong with it, but I would call it a renewal ceremony instead of a wedding
by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:41 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with it but I never attend those ceremonies. I have so little time I'm not wasting it on something you already did two years ago. 

by Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:42 AM
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dh and i eloped too.  i decided that when we have been married ten year (its coming up soon) then we will renew our vows.

by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:44 AM
this is exactly the predicament I'm facing right now. only, I was pregnant when we "eloped" and it will now be 4 years in November.
My whole family (and his) wants us to have a wedding, the whole thing. And I do want to get married in the church in a wedding dress, with a big reception and the likes, but I just don't know what people would think? We're thinking about doing a 5 year wedding vowel renewal but I don't see it as a renewal because these will be all new vows and in the church..I dunno, it's confusing
by Anonymous 2 on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:44 AM
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I agree with grandma
by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:47 AM
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Wait a little longer and do a vow renewal at 5,10,15 years. If you are paying who cares, don't invite the naysayers.
by Platinum Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:49 AM
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 It would not be a weeding but a renewal of your vows. That being said why spend the money now? I would have a kick ass reception. That is just me.

by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:49 AM
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I, personally, agree with your grandmother. It seems weird to have everyone gather to relive some fantasy you have. You are already married and had your chance. In my opinion you should have done it first time. If everyone didn't get along, well that's part of the stress of weddings and what makes them so awesome, but its too late and looks a little desperate.

by on Aug. 21, 2013 at 9:55 AM
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Why not? You're renewing your vows. Lots of people do it! I want to do it in 2014 for our ten year anniversary!

by Member on Aug. 21, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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I think it is fine. You would be doing a vow renewal. We are planning on doing one for our ten year anniversy.  

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