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How do you know when it’s time to get married?

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Joanie got married when she was 18.

How could she be sure she was making the right decision and how it would affect her entire life?

by on Aug. 28, 2013 at 3:05 PM
Replies (11-20):
michiganmom116
by on Aug. 29, 2013 at 7:16 AM

No one knows the future....how events or maturity will affect you or your SO.  I think people need to be ready to make the commitment to a life-long relationship with all of its ups and downs rather than worry about whether they're making the "right" decision.

johnny4ever
by Silver Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 7:52 AM

We got married after 6 years together..e wanted to start a family

4kidz916
by Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 8:38 AM

It's hard to say.  Everyone has to realize that on their own.  

arpazia
by Silver Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 9:47 AM
You never really know. It's simply a feeling
dusky_rose
by Silver Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 10:02 AM

I think that I shouldn't have gotten married the first time around. I think that I did it for the wrong reasons. Even my pre-marriage councelor (through church) told me that she didn't think that I should. I guess live and learn.


sukainah
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 10:21 AM

I agree with this.  Well said!

Quoting ablackdolphin:

I think that is such a hard question to answer.  Every couple is different. Age and life experienes have a lot to do with it too.

Love changes with age and experience. Meaning, when I was younger I had more of an infatuation kind of love in a few long term relationships. 

As I got older I realized that there is more to a marriage than just love.  I wanted someone who would be a good father, a good role model and a good companion.  Someone who has like thoughts on finances, cheating, religion, etc.

Had I married my long time boyfriend from high school, we would have divorced for sure. I wouldn't have had an amazing career prior to kids and I wouldn't have traveled or moved away from home.

I think you really have to be honest with yourself and your expectations.


sukainah
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 10:22 AM

That's awesome!

Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

For DH and I we just didn't want to be apart anymore. We had a long distance relationship, and only saw each other every 3 months. We were young and naive, we had no idea what we were getting ourselves into but we've made it work and we are very, very happy!


sukainah
by Gold Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 10:23 AM

That's very true.

Quoting michiganmom116:

No one knows the future....how events or maturity will affect you or your SO.  I think people need to be ready to make the commitment to a life-long relationship with all of its ups and downs rather than worry about whether they're making the "right" decision.


Bmat
by Bronze Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 11:00 AM

When you don't feel like a whole person without him. But also after discussing basic things such as money handling, child raising, extended family responsibilities, religion. Goals.

jessicasmom1
by Silver Member on Aug. 29, 2013 at 11:55 AM

We both agreed on what it was we wanted to for life married when I was 19 had 12 wonderful years with him  and our beautiful daughter before his passing never in a million years would I be single if it was not for this. 

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