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The Manners I'm Working On

Posted by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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Manners. There are good manners, bad manners, and just plain ugly manners (which are also known as rude behavior). And within all of those categories, we all have those that we value higher, bad manners that irk us more than other bad manners.

We live in a city of 8 million folks, so somewhere, at any given time, someone could be doing great manners and many times, another person could be doing really not-so-great manners. (Don't even get me started on the folks that clip their toenails on the subway...yes, I'm hearing collective "eewwwww!" from you all, but it happens. Often.) For me, high on that "bad manners that really get under my skin" list (aside from grooming in public): not giving up a seat on the subway for pregnant women or elderly folks...and people who smack their gum. Others I know think that is the worst behavior ever is when someone interrupts someone else.

Now, I like to think I have good manners, ones that I show and model for Kiddo. But that is one manner that I fall short on. Sometimes I interrupt folks. My brain gets going too fast, and I think the other person is done talking, but they aren't but I don't know it and I start with my question. I usually stop myself but, still, I know I do it at times.

Teaching Kiddo about how not to interrupt me when I'm in a conversation and to wait til I'm done has definitely highlighted for me the importance of getting better at this good mannerly trait. The key for teaching kids not to interrupt? The whole "excuse me" thing is good, but also illuminating them to the art of listening and "sensing" when it is okay to say "excuse me" and get their request in to you as you chat with her BFF's mom. If they don't learn that, they will be sitting there saying "excuse me" 13 times before it's ok, if you know what I mean. It's a tricky thing to learn, but one that will be so helpful down the road.

What manners do you find you need to remember more often than you do? Which ones do you need to work on? Which bad manners irk you the most?

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by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 12:00 AM
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othermom
by Platinum Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 10:12 AM

I am pretty polite. I need to work on the kids with please and thank you more, although they do pretty good

nngmommy83
by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:21 AM

I like to think I'm pretty polite and that my kids are as well. I do have to remind them both not to interrupt at times and my 13 year old to watch her tone of voice

elasmimi
by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 12:46 PM

I think I am pretty polite. I need to work on all kinds of manners with my dd. I do work on them, but it's not sinking in.

sukainah
by Gold Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 2:09 PM

I need to remember to smile and give a good greeting when my husband comes home from work.  We always say hello, but there is never smiles.  So I need to work on that more.

The bad manners that irk me the most are people who chew with their mouths open and can't old their eating utensils properly.  I know, it's picky LOL

TerriC
by Bronze Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 2:43 PM

I am a person that believes please and thank you are a must.  I hold doors open for people, I smile and say hi, I look people in the eye.  I think I am okay with being polite.  I hope!  LOL

matt_sara_mom
by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 2:56 PM

I'd like to say I'm pretty polite but I have the bad habit of slipping up with curse words when I get hurt.

People talking with their mouths full is horrible!

jessicasmom1
by Silver Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 3:07 PM

Yes, Please, Thank you, your welcome, Yes sir, No mamm , No thanks

cntrdmom
by Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 3:22 PM
I honestly think I'm great for just everyday stuff. If I end up somewhere fancy or upscale I may not do everything perfectly but I honestly don't care.
If anything I sometimes forget to acknowledge people because I'm busy with the kids. I try really hard to not be lost in thought or kid zone when out though. It doesn't help anything to be disconnected with the moment and my surroundings.

The thing that irks me most is just attitude. It's about body language and wether you sigh a lot. Someone can forget to say please, thank you, or not call me ma'am and I won't really notice. If they're obviously aggravated or pissy with me I'm not going to be a happy person with them.
cntrdmom
by Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 3:23 PM
I went to school with this poor girl that was taught eye contact is bad and rude. She would never look at anyone. I felt bad for her. At first it was awkward but she opened up and told us all one day.


Quoting TerriC:

I am a person that believes please and thank you are a must.  I hold doors open for people, I smile and say hi, I look people in the eye.  I think I am okay with being polite.  I hope!  LOL


TerriC
by Bronze Member on Sep. 27, 2013 at 3:53 PM
Oh, how sad for her. Glad you were able to show her it was okay!


Quoting cntrdmom:

I went to school with this poor girl that was taught eye contact is bad and rude. She would never look at anyone. I felt bad for her. At first it was awkward but she opened up and told us all one day.




Quoting TerriC:

I am a person that believes please and thank you are a must.  I hold doors open for people, I smile and say hi, I look people in the eye.  I think I am okay with being polite.  I hope!  LOL



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